To think FIL should close his door?

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

He's staying with us and we have put him in DDs room...removed her toddler bed and put an air bed in there for him.

He goes to bed about 10 and sleeps with the light o (by choice) and his door wide open and he snores badly....

I think it's odd to have to keep passing his room and seeing him there...snoring in bed plus the light and the noise keeps waking us all up...small house!

DD1 and 2 are in the room next to his and since hes been here, they wake up every few hours.

DH said last night "I'll shut your door Dad...as he passed" but FIL said no....he likes it open. AIBU to tell him to shut it tonight? The DDs are knackered and grumpy...

Just shut it and tell him that's what happens in your house. No arguments.

Just close it & if he says anything you're shutting it as part of your fire safety drill! I always close every door in our house at night.

Really? I thought that would be a bit pushy...

Just shut it once he's asleep?

Seconding just shutting it once he is asleep. I think he is being quite rude if you have already asked and he has refused.

Explain that it is much safer to keep the doors shut when sleeping, after seeing on TV once what happens if you leave them open in the event of a fire, I shut all doors every night now.

Just close it.

I don't get why you think it would be pushy? Its your house at the end of the day - he is a guest.

Why can't your husband tell him that everyone's being disturbed by the snoring and he has to close the door.

My kids would certainly tell me!

sure he prefers it open.

And you prefer it shut.

One-all.

But you need to point out that the snoring is disturbing the DCs so you must ask for it to be closed. That's what's concerning you, anyway.

i dont like my bedroom door closed at all, but would compromise and pull it to

if he is asleep and you go by and light is on, just switch it off. he wont know

I would be politely honest and say "sorry Dad, but your snoring and the light is disturbing everyone, you will HAVE to close your bedroom door".

the light might be because his night vision is poor (that happens with age) and without his glasses he might be blind as a bat, so when he has to get up in the night (that happens with age) he might be stumbling about and bashing into things or falling over. A low-wattage bedside lamp and another on the landing might be what's needed.