As you may or may not have seen recently I have had a couple of rants about dh and his job and ds's refusal to eat leading to disrupted sleep. Well this morning dh has IMO made a huge error of judgement (although I accept the lack of sleep is probably clouding mine).
Yesterday dh was due to finish worth around midday. 4pm came, still no dh so I called him and he said he would be a couple of hours. I got upset at him because it would mean all he would do when he got home would be eat then go to bed ready for his 5am start this morning so I would not get a break.
I went to bed and set the alarm for dh. Dh came to bed later (dont know when). Ds woke at 2am, 2.45am, 3.10 am, at which point I ended up getting in the cot with him (it's a got bed and I'm not that big, I just can't stretch my legs! Ds can't come in our bed because he would escape) I can't see the clock in ds's room so I didn't know how much time had passed but I spent the night getting increasingly worried that I hadn't heard dh get up and that he would be late for work. Ds ds eventually go to sleep but decided pulling my hair and random parts of my face as I pretended to be asleep was more fun. However he was quiet and not screaming so I putup with it.
At 7am, I got up with ds and found dh still in bed. I woke him up as he should have been in work by then and he told me he had the day off. I asked since when and he said 5pm yesterday! So I asked why he didn't tell me and he said he thought it would be a nice surprise.
Now hear is why it was not a nice surprise and why I'm so upset:
- Dh could have got up in the night to settle ds and I could have slept for once. I always do all the night stuff even when I'm in work the next day because dh does not function when he's tired, dh is always in work the next day so I never get a night off.
- Ds's sleeping is getting worse and I am getting more exhausted. When ds was tiny I wasn't in work so I could sleep when he slept, now I can't. We both know ds responds better when dh resettles him anyway (because he thinks I'm a soft touch apparently).
- I could have arranged to do some overtime today at double time. It's now too late to do this.
- I have been waiting for dh and I to have a day off together so we can go to some shops I can't normally get to as I don't drive. As I didn't know we would have today off there is tonnes of stuff needs doing in the house so we can't go. I could have done everything last night had I known.
I am just so upset that he thought it was ok to essentially get a lie in when he knows how tired I am and then expected me to be happy about it. I expect I am being unreasonable but I am going to blame the exhaustion.