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To have screamed like a fishwife in the middle of a packed high street?

153 replies

staylucky · 29/10/2011 23:28

Walking through town today, busy saturday afternoon full of shoppers. Dp and I hadn't taken the pushchairs for DS as I'm trying to get him into the habit of walking more. Toddler DS ran in front of some guy, DP immediatly apologised and picked up our DS. Chap then does this huge 'comedy' kick and laughs to his Gf like he's the funniest
man alive.

Ok so I'm 5 months pregnant, hormonal and perhaps I was being a bit precious but I just saw red Blush and said to the guy "as if you just did that right in front of me" this quickly turned into a huge slanting match in the middle of the street. I know he was joking I never thought for a minute he was going to kick my son but why would you even joke about something like that???!! If an old lady had stumbled in front of him would he have done the same? TO HER FACE?!

He told me to get a grip Grin

I await more of the same... No but honestly would you have let that go?

OP posts:
MenopausalHaze · 29/10/2011 23:47

Oh. My. God.

EllaDee - seriously ..... nope, I can't find the words............

You really really need to get some help with that sick sick sick thought process you have there.

A1980 · 29/10/2011 23:47

Good god, get a grip! He was joking. You love your kids to bits but the general public cant stand them. Lovely display for your son too!

TBH it's your own fault for not keeping a very young child under control in the first place. If you want to take toddlers out with no buggy, invest in some reigns so they cant just run off. Maybe next time it'll be under a car!

I'm generally tolerant and love children but even I am getting sick and tired of them outside. They don't cry anymore, they scream blue murder. What is that about? Also leave the fucking scooters at home would you, especially for children under 5. If one more kid crashes into me, I'll be the one screaming like a fishwife at the parents.

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:48

menopausal - it's 'sick' to say violence against children is not funny? Really?

worraliberty · 29/10/2011 23:48

Oh ffs Ella really you're equating a young man who probably felt awkward and did a 'comedy' kick in the air to murder and child abuse?

Really there are no words Hmm

Sevenfoldedbloodybodies · 29/10/2011 23:49

yabu
what is it with people and the.......oh i am pregnant stuff

squeakyfreakytoy · 29/10/2011 23:49

Oh Ella... I hate to say this, but really... get a grip.

He wasnt violent. He didnt threaten violence. He was mucking about... it is what normal people do. Normal people who would be very unlikely to inflict any harm on a child.

Violence in a busy shopping centre would rarely go unnoticed.

I would suggest though OP, if you have a child who is likely to bolt, put him on some rains, or next time it could be a mobility chair he goes under, or god forbid, a car.

squeakyfreakytoy · 29/10/2011 23:50

rains - reins...

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:50

worra - please show me where I equated the two? Confused

I don't equate the two.

I do think violence against children isn't ever funny. And it is IMO disrespectful to the memory of all abused children to pretend it is.

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:52

squeaky - I get that I wasn't there, he may have been just mucking about. I think it's the term 'comedy' that got me.

I just know that had I been there, and someone had faked a kick at a child, I would flinch. I'd not find it funny. I don't think it's okay to rationalize what he did by saying it was comedy violence, because IMO violence just is not funny. It can't be.

worraliberty · 29/10/2011 23:52

Fucking hell you'd love me then Ella

Whenever my DS's have friends around and their parent's say to them "Behave for Worra, ok?"

I normally come back with something like "Of course he will or I'll lock him in the cupboard"

I can just imagine you wailing baby P's name on my doorstep and rushing off with your child...mobile phone pressed to ear with SS on speed dial Hmm

squeakyfreakytoy · 29/10/2011 23:53

I don't think it's okay to rationalize what he did by saying it was comedy violence, because IMO violence just is not funny. It can't be.

I can bet you dont watch Tom n Jerry or The Sooty Show then.... Confused

Popbiscuit · 29/10/2011 23:54

Oh, OP. I know where you are coming from but I'm sure he was just trying to make his friend laugh. A raised eyebrow would have been sufficient. Let it go.

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:55

Of course I wouldn't do that worra.

And I fully admit, I know most people probably don't flinch at a fake kick. I know it's my issues in part. But I really do not like the idea that this could be seen as funny, you know? It does make me think of that poor baby, and all the children who really do get hit and kicked. And when I think about that I don't find the fake kicks very funny. That's it really, pretty simple to me.

I admit it didn't occur to me that would get any kind of strong reaction here..

Kayano · 29/10/2011 23:55

Worra I do that too and have in fact said to dn 'behave or I will chin ya' Blush or lock in cupboards etc

I would never ever do anything like that and we usually just have a giggle

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:56

squeaky - true enough. Not for ideology though - I've never heard of the second one!

cantspel · 29/10/2011 23:56

my sons have spent the last 12 years doing comedy kicks against each other. I better have them locked up now as it is only a matter of time before they go out and kill a baby.

worraliberty · 29/10/2011 23:56

Fair enough Ella but imo it was way OTT to even bring that poor little boy up on a thread like this...we are all different though and I accept that.

Squeaky I don't know why I thought of Tom and Jerry too Grin

rubyrubyruby · 29/10/2011 23:57

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sabrinathemiddleagedwitch · 29/10/2011 23:57
Kayano · 29/10/2011 23:57

Please note I never actually DO any disciplining .... Most I have ever done is ask a child to put their pjs on early lol

EllaDee · 29/10/2011 23:58

kayano - I do know that people who make jokes like that to their children are not really about to hurt them.

I don't know, maybe I am overreacting to this. I do know I feel very emotionally about it and do feel very sick at 'joke' violence, especially to children. It does seem wrong to me. But you may all be right that it's not a normal reaction.

worraliberty · 29/10/2011 23:58

Kayano I wouldn't really lock them in the cupboard either unless I had pizza, pancakes, ommelettes and other flat foods to slide under the door Grin

oldraver · 29/10/2011 23:58

Well a busy Saturday afternoon is not the best time for your DS to practise his walking.

At the very least get some reins

rhondajean · 29/10/2011 23:58

YABU to have let him out in public without reins or a wrist strap.

He was BU to joke like that, but if you remember there are a lot of idiots in the world, and your blood pressure isnt up to taking them all on, you will find life easier.

edam · 29/10/2011 23:58

I dunno, there is something a bit dodgy about someone aiming a pretend kick at a toddler that they don't know. Am struggling to think of a situation where it would be OK to pretend to kick a toddler but I guess in amongst friends and family joking around possibly it might happen. From an adult stranger, though, it's just weird and nasty.

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