To say it's ok not to want anymore kids

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I have 3 DC, am delighted with them! DD is 4 and my identical twin boys are 15 months:)

Busy few years but am really enjoying it!

On more than on occasion family, work colleagues and friends have asked if I would have any more children. I am definite that our family is 'done', me and DH have discussed this.

When I said this, I got a 'oh' kind of answer or else a 'well you might change your mind in a few years'. My mother seemed a bit surprised when I told her, I was made feel it was a negative thing to not want to have more children.

Maybe because of my age (36, hardly a spring chicken, but anyway...) people sort of assume I'd have more.

Is 3 not a big family?

In my heart, I feel so lucky, thrilled and happy with my 3 children.

And on a pratical note, me and DH are happy to have a bit of normality after the hectic first year of twins and are looking forward to the school years and going on fmaily holidays and if I'm honest, am happy being out of the baby stage.

Why does it not feel ok to say this and be honest? Why do people assume that you might want to change your mind? Anyone else get this reaction?

I've never understood why it is in the interest of all and sundry to know when, why and how many children you will have. It's such a personal thing to be prying into.

I have 5 children. After my 4th I was sure we were done, but years later I changed my mind. But that doesn't mean everyone else will change their mind, and in fact I envy families who are certain they have had enough at three - I'm incurably broody, and really wish I wasn't.

I have people telling me I should stop, and continuously making jokes about "how it is done", etc. Drives me crazy! Since when is my sex-life anyone's business?

if you say you might change your mind why not just be like well we will see, and then just ignore! they can't force you to have more and probs just making conversation?