to think that if you're 'afraid' to post in AIBU, you're probably taking it all too seriously?

[screamingbohemian]

Lately I feel there are lots of posters saying they are 'too afraid' to post in AIBU

I don't really get it. So you post in AIBU, either:

A) no one replies move along now...

B) you get a mixed bag of replies -- this is helpful

or C) you get massively and totally flamed, in which case you name change and start all over

Is there a D?

Why be afraid?

I can understand being shy to speak your mind in front of RL friends but this is all anonymous. So all I can think is that people are lending too much power and weight to the opinion of complete strangers.

However, I accept I may be totally unreasonable about this.

YABU! Have you seen how scary some of us are?

YABU. It's a scary place for the meek and mild.

I don't get posters who get upset that people tell them YABU, mind. I mean, why ask if you don't want to know the answer?

Yabu. It's the same when people start whinging about the feminist section.

Really need to take a step back into reality when strangers on t'internet are scaring you.

YANBU. I mean, I have received some upsetting pastings, notably when I was really uncomfortable with a remark a male doctor made to me and got told that I was being inappropriate - but scary? Nah.

The worst is when you generally want to know if YABU and you don't get any replies

YABU, some people have made "friends" as regulars in other forums, and may say or think something that they all disagree with and so they get snubbed and ignored when they go back for support. That's why you should have one name for AIBU and another for non-AIBU. Also goes to show how two faced some people are.

D' you get massively flames etc, suck it up realise you were intact being unreasonable, dint name change (pride!) and get on with real life!!

FLAMED and INFACT.. damn iPhone!

YABU, why name change?

Really Mr? That's sad.

And that's true, people also say it about the feminist section.

calma I just mean that worst case scenario you can always name change so there's really nothing to be afraid of.

I don't even understand why people name change just because people disagree with them.

How do they cope in real life when people disagree with their point of view?

Do they get plastic surgery, move to a safe house and wear dark glasses?

YANBU.

I've learnt a lot about myself from AIBU - mostly how U I can be at times

It's character building stuff if you take it in the right light - if you don't then I'm not sure how you'd succeed in life generally since it's not always going to go your way!

I don't deal with criticism very well in RL.

I just don't like people thinking badly of me.

It doesn't matter if it's an anonymous forum, the fact someone's and at something personal you've told them about yourself, is a bit unnerving.

More so because they don't even know you and they're think you're a cunt, so you must be

Truth hurts eh?

'How do they cope in real life when people disagree with their point of view?'

I go out of my way not to talk to people worra

Broadly, yes, YANBU.

But occasionally you see people post who're clearly not in a state to take it all un-seriously, and they are the people who probably are afraid to post because life is pretty scary for them just then. They're the ones everyone wants to say 'ffs, get off the net and call a doctor/ring 999/run away/go to Women's Aid', but the whole point of being in a hell of a state is you don't always do the textbook procedure, do you?

And then it's lovely when they do get sorted out and people who're just here to chatter come out with lovely wise words/comfort.