to think husband should be home...or at least have told me he'd be late?

[stubborncow]

It's 9pm here (am in East Coast North America). We both work full-time. We are moving house on Monday and haven't packed much. We have a 3.5 year old and a 14mth old who I picked up, fed, bathed and put to bed. 3 year old called husband to say goodnight, he gave no indication when he'd be home. I have done a load of washing, hung it on the clothes horse and packed a box of stuff. He should really be home..or at least said he'd be extra late, right?

Have you actually spoken to him yourself?

He's still at work is he?

I think seeing as you're moving on monday he should have given you a rough time of when he'll be home.

Could something have come up that he had to sort out (and not had time to contact you)?

Just through the daughter - she hung up! He usually says he'll be home and give her a kiss when she's asleep or before she's asleep or whatever.

I see where you're going - I could've asked. This is very true but I assumed that unless he said otherwise, he'd be home at a relatively normal time, especially given we need to clean and pack.

Ho hum, off to text him now and see what he says!

AgentZigZag, he's notoriously rubbish at letting me know when he might be home so it's most likely just normal working away at something rather than anything in particular having come up.

I've given up on expecting him to let me know if he'll be ohme for dinner or not (even if I ask!) and just get on with things but we talked at lunch about all we had to do so I thought he'd be home this evening.

I was expecting this to be one of those threads where a DH went out for one drink (honest) with friends, and ended up coming home at 5am blind drunk, peeing on the stairs and having been to a strip club, etc.

If he's notoriously rubbish at this, why the fuss now? Yes, It would be nice of him to let you know, but you presumably are used to this, so could have asked him, or reminded him to not stay too late.

Hmmmm. This used to happen to me with my ex. He was seeing a girlfriend..

Sounds like he is avoiding packing up ,at best, seeing someone at worse. Phone him!

Yes, phone him and tell him that you've left him x,y and z to pack when he gets home that way if he is trying to avoid the packing it'll send him the message that he can't.