So, over the &$%£%*& holidays for the past few years we have had a 'stay at home' rule, we go to see all my family a few weeks before christmas when we all get together and we went to IL's at new year.
Last year MIL had just died, so to avoid FIL having a miserable time we invaded with DD's and it was great.
FIL lives near SIL and her boys, his siblings and MIL's family.
My mum lives on her own near no-one in our family. One of my siblings sees my father at christmas so she is out, my brother is useless and doesn't normally 'fix' his plans so it is entirely possible she will be all on her own christmas day and not see a soul. She insists she is okay with this but I feel otherwise.
DH wants to be with his family again and has asked that we go to FIL's.
At FIL's I cook and organise everything (FIL can cook but manages for himself, feeding 3 adults and 2 fussy children is a bit much) but it is so laid back and 'whatever' it is fun, and FIL loves washing up the freak
I haven't spent christmas with my mum for years as I see her before and, well, I do not have happy childhood memories of christmas. This does mean that she has never seen the DD's on christmas day though.
Is it awful of us to go to FIL's again, I don't want to upset my mum, but don't want FIL on his own, and he refuses all invites as he wants to sit in HIS chair with HIS whiskey and chill, not be uncomfy in someone else's house (dude, seriously, he is so old!)