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This is hypocritical isn't it? I think I need a hard hat...

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Hungrydragon · 28/10/2011 22:39

Ok, don't want to name change so I'll keep it vague enough not to get caught.

A "friend" of mine was moaning about rising costs in general.

However she then went on about child benefit and so forth and that she agrees with current reports that having a large family is abusing the system. Her dh then agreed with her. Saying that people were basically churning out "kids for cash" and that child benefit should be capped to two children as this is the normal amount to have and that they shouldn't be paying for other peoples children etc etc

But, but but...

The friend is her dh's 3rd relationship, he has had 3 other subsequent children before their two dc's. All of whom have been entitled to cb.

(I refused to engage in the conversation, leaving it to others)

He is a hypocrite isn't he? And technically so is she as add in 3 step children and that's a family of 5?

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pictish · 28/10/2011 22:41

It's not just hypocritical...it's also thick as shit. Do they not see that they themselves are a large family? Obviously not.
Not the sharpest tools in the box eh?

ChaosTrulyReigns · 28/10/2011 22:43
MmeLindor. · 28/10/2011 22:45

Hehe. Did you ask for your tax money back?

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Hungrydragon · 28/10/2011 22:47

erm no Pictish....hence not engaging in discussion.

But it's still annoying me now! Grin Are people allowed to think like this?

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mumsamilitant · 28/10/2011 22:50

Another twit of a man who's obviously forgotten that he sired others before his "new family" and a woman who enables him!

EllaDee · 28/10/2011 22:50

Ah, come on ... it's not exactly hypocritical when they're just chatting about it! Depends how strongly-held the view is and whether they accept it's inconsistent with their previous decision to have that number of children.

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Hungrydragon · 28/10/2011 22:50

Technically though what would happen with cb. If a woman already had 2 children she wouldn't be entitled, but if she met a new dp and he didn't could he claim or would her first two exempt him.?

Or in their case it's her first two but he has 3 previously so can she claim but not him?

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EllaDee · 28/10/2011 22:51

(Btw, I think they're idiots to think that ... I just don't reckon you can judge someone for what they say when they're having a bit an ad hoc rant.)

TethHearseEnd · 28/10/2011 22:51

Yeah, let the little bastards starve- that'll teach them not to be born.

mumsamilitant · 28/10/2011 22:53

Think it works that his former partner gets cb for hers as he doesnt live there any more and his current partner claims for hers.

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Hungrydragon · 28/10/2011 22:53

A haa Tethers but which ones would you starve?

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PenguinArmy · 28/10/2011 22:56

see, this is what happens when we let people think for themselves

blackeyedsusan · 28/10/2011 22:58

well, given your first post which shows that the current parents are, as somebody put it, not the brrightest tools in the box, perhaps the gene pool would benefit if their childrern were eliminated Wink

blackeyedsusan · 28/10/2011 22:58

children derr

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Hungrydragon · 28/10/2011 23:02

Now I've been alternating between thinking I am a snobby judgy cow to you twits!

However Ella has made a good point, I should really have let this one go Grin

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mumsamilitant · 28/10/2011 23:14

Remember being in mothercare years ago and in walk a couple of girls pushing prams. One says to the other "I'm going to have a few more coz you don't half get a lot of money that way" Sad

No, you're not judgey or a snob. I'm working class and kicked ex out when my DS was tiny. I claimed social security for a year as didn't want to leave my baby until he was 2. But had been working from the age of 15 until then (35).

fedupofnamechanging · 28/10/2011 23:49

I would have been unable to bite my tongue and would have pointed out that, by his own reckoning, he has exceeded his quota of children and perhaps he should be refunding the state for the additional kids he has claimed for.

People will continue to talk shit unless they are called on it.

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Hungrydragon · 29/10/2011 00:01

Karma....I think I was waiting for him to realise it himself. I may if it happens again mention something Grin

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sozzledchops · 29/10/2011 00:05

I don't think I could have stayed stumpt!

slavetofilofax · 29/10/2011 00:12

If he pays for all his children and doesn't claim anything other than CB, I don't think he is being hypocritical. I think you can have more than two children, claim CB for them, and still legitimately hold this view if you want. CB is universal, so it seems silly not to claim if you can. But you can still think that people who don't need it shouldn't get it.

If he or any of his children live on any other kind of benefit, including tax credits, then he is being very hypocritical, and a twat.

TidyDancer · 29/10/2011 00:13

I totally agree with karma on this. Unless you point out how stupid people are being, they won't learn. I would've struggled not to throw my two pence worth in tbh HD, though I understand why you held back! Sometimes it's just better to let people hang themselves with their own issues. [hgrin]

WilsonFrickett · 29/10/2011 00:18

Yeah BUT cb will very soon not be universal. So I imagine debates like these will become more common...

MrBloomsNursery · 29/10/2011 00:28

Does her DH have a stubble, a longish round head, is bright yellow coloured and likes doughnuts?

cat64 · 29/10/2011 00:39

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Hungrydragon · 29/10/2011 00:45

That's the thing though, he was stating the cb should be capped to two dc's and that benefit for larger families should not be allowed.

MrBloom pmsl!

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