to think MIL is BU

38 replies

kunahero · 28/10/2011 21:05

Dp and I are enthusiastic but not very good runners. I have been doing Parkrun for 6 months and have got DP interested. We are really lucky to have a Parkrun 5 mins walk away.
We have dd (3) so we alternate care when we do our running in week but cant both do Parkrun at same time.
MIL lives 4.5 miles across our city in the opp direction to our parkrun. She is mid 60's fit and healthy with no ties and a good car. She has kindly offered to lookafter dd while we do aprkrun but only if we load dd into our car, drive 25 mins across city to her house, leave dd with her, drive 25 mins back across city, do parkrun, drive back to her house pick up dd, have chat, cup of tea etc, load dd into car and drive home 25 mins again.
MIL will not drive to us, look after dd then drive home!
AIBU to be pissed off at this?

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usualsuspect · 28/10/2011 22:43

yabu

ffs

Birdsnotbees · 28/10/2011 23:01

YABU. If it is that important that you run with DP, why not take DD to MIL's house and go for a run near where MIL lives? Surely the point of running is that you can do it anywhere.

2rebecca · 28/10/2011 23:04

yabu. Why should she spend an hour driving across town to babysit for half an hour? Parkruns aren't supposed to be races, even though you are timed. I'm a runner and if this was my husband and I one of us would do the official parkrun whilst the other babysat sprog and we'd then swap over and the other run the course using a watch with timer and swap over the next week. That way you both get to run the course and no-one has to drive. I'd save the babysitting offer for when you have a race that you both want to run.

Jux · 28/10/2011 23:06

Would this be at the w/e or in the evening?

DogsBeastFiend · 28/10/2011 23:06

YABU. She is doing you the favour, not the other way around, so if you don't like her offer, say no thank you - but be gracious about it!

BluddyMoFo · 28/10/2011 23:07

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mercibucket · 28/10/2011 23:11

Annoying but there you go! No need for you both to do same run every week imo so either pay for babysitter, find friend to do it, do the drive or alternate as you do now. Mil is not exactly going out of her way but her call

mercibucket · 28/10/2011 23:11

2rebecca · 28/10/2011 23:12

Our local parkrun is a saturday morning.

Lizzywishes · 28/10/2011 23:13

Don't all the parkruns start at 9 on Saturday morning? In which case, YABU.

grovel · 28/10/2011 23:17

You really think that your desire to do "parkruns" means that your MiL should put herself out at all? How spoilt are you? Your MiL is a grown-up who should define her life by your fads? Grow up.

Xmasbaby11 · 28/10/2011 23:19

You're being so unreasonable! So you expect her to drive across the city to do you a favour, but it's too much trouble for you to do? That's disgraceful. Get a grip!

lettinggo · 28/10/2011 23:58

My SIL lives 40 min drive away from me. She asked me to mind her 2 children while she and BIL went away. Their destination was the opposite direction from my house so she would have to drive to my house and home again and off to her holiday destination. She asked me to meet her halfway at a shopping centre, which I did. The first time. She asked me again to mind her children, which I was happy to do, but I told her if she wants me to mind them, I'll happily do it but I'm not driving 20 mins each way todo her a favour. If she wants me to mind them, sha has to bring them to me.
It's the same with your MIL. She's doing you the favour by minding your child, why should she have to put herself out to do you a favour?
YABU

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