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Original poster

baby in bath aimbu?

26 replies

bigbabushkas · 28/10/2011 18:17

first time poster on amibu so please be gentle. my ds, 14months, stays over night with his grandmother and great auntie, they look after him two days a week so very close bond. My auntie pops him n the bath with her the night they look after, no problem with me, but my close cousin has gone on a rant that it is inappropriate, to the point she has phoned my husband about it. I don't think there is anything wrong, am i being unreasonable?

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iklboo · 28/10/2011 18:20

What's the cousins problem with it?

minipie · 28/10/2011 18:20

Sounds lovely. YANBU. Your cousin is nuts.

The only problem I can see might be a safety issue if she is elderly and so might not be able to cope with having a bath and a wriggly wet toddler at the same time. But I'm assuming that is not the case.

squeakyfreakytoy · 28/10/2011 18:20

It really is none of her business, unless she has any reason at all to suspect there may be more to it than simply giving a child a bath.

saintlyjimjams · 28/10/2011 18:22

Weird.

But my kids cousins aren't allowed in the bath with them either. I have no idea why....

Original poster
bigbabushkas · 28/10/2011 18:26

not older at all, in fifties! and she has said there was no reason inappropriately, she just thinks that it is inappropriate for a baby to be in bath with anyone other than parents.

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BOOareHaunting · 28/10/2011 18:28

If your OK with it it really has nothing to do with your cousin.

If your DH has a problem with it then that is the only person you need discuss it with.

activate · 28/10/2011 18:29

your cousin is a weirdo

HTH

LadyEvenstarsCoven · 28/10/2011 18:31

Sounds like your cousin needs to get her hang ups sorted!!

BrawToken · 28/10/2011 18:34

Your cousin is warped and has read too much Daily Mail.

octopusinabox · 28/10/2011 18:39

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HappyCamel · 28/10/2011 18:51

YANBU. Your child, your decision. It might well be safer than leaning over the bath lifting a slippery toddler.

HappyCamel · 28/10/2011 18:55

If she's basically accusing her of child abuse then I'd be quite offended. That's not something you make accusations about lightly. Maybe ask her to explain the exact reason for her concern.

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern · 28/10/2011 18:59

Your cousin needs to mind her own business.

When I was a child I used to love staying at my Aunties and being allowed to go in the bath with her. I did this until I was 8 and we moved overseas. we'd have those luch bath balls & natter away. I also used to shower with my Nana just because I wanted to.

My friends children have always come in the bath with me if they've wanted to and even the older ones still come in the bathroom when I'm in the shower without even thinking about it... I figure they'll stop when I start scaring them!

Nowtspecial · 28/10/2011 19:05

What the cock does inappropriate mean. That's what I'd be asking.

rhondajean · 28/10/2011 19:08

Maybe she has had a bad experience herself or with her children and shes overly cautious.

Wouldnt see a problem myself.

grograg · 28/10/2011 19:15

Your cousin is bonkers!!
It wouldn't bother me, last year my dd's (4 and 5)had a bath at my sisters and my nephew who was 11 at the time jumped in the bath aswell with his swimming trunks on, They all had great fun :) i was in the room and my mum was in and out trying to mop up the floor although not sure why as 2 mins later it was soaked again. Ive mentioned it in passing and have had a few Shock faces as some think my nephew was a little old but it was more like going swimming than a bath Grin

Original poster
bigbabushkas · 29/10/2011 06:56

She doesn't think there is anything untoward happening, the auntie looks after her two one day a week as well. She just feels that that the only people that my ds should see naked are me and my husband.

Thank you mumsnet jury, it seems I am definitely not being unreasonable!

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SnapesMistressofFear · 29/10/2011 15:58

The why the feck is she worried? Honestly, she needs to prise her hand from her pearls and get a life!

Misschief101 · 29/10/2011 16:05

Not something i would do but your child your rules and your cousin has no right to pass a comment on whats wrong or right with something you're happy with. Tell her to mind her own business

sunshinenanny · 30/10/2011 18:06

Your cousin has no right to comment on something you have no problem with. She sounds a bit prudish.

pebbledasher · 30/10/2011 18:29

If I didn't trust any of my friends and relatives to bathe my child without causing him harm, they would simply not be a part of my life.

antsypants · 30/10/2011 18:39

What a tool, they sound lovely and it's great that you have two lovely ladies happy to spend time bonding with your DC, tell your cousin that she needs to get some perspective, there are so many real concerns to occupy yourself with.

JjandtheBeanplusPud · 30/10/2011 18:40

Yanbu, my two have bathed with me, dp, my mum, cousins, aunts, uncles, its a free for all if you leave a door unlocked.

Nowt weird about it IMO

Jux · 30/10/2011 18:42

None of her business.

HeresTheScaryThingBooyhoo · 30/10/2011 18:42

my dc's great aunty is in her 20's so i wouldn't have assumed that the aunt was old.