to ask dp NOT to help again?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

In two years me and dp have moved, 100 miles to be near his family and a new job, then that house was sold out from under us so we had to 'move' into storage near that house. Then we moved 120miles back to near where we started orinally. We did all this ALONE. As it was our choices (almost) and our problem.

Dps sister moves every 6mnths, EVERY.SIX.MONTHS. Despite having a child, she gets bored

Every time dp helps, I've had enough, her husband is useless and is yet to even pack a box, she said she's getting a removal company and dp got all daft and said he will do it.

AIBU to ask him not to, its every 6mnths ffs, she lives 120miles away from us and despite a van being hired our car always ended up being used, it costs £30 alone to get there, each time its ended up using our whole tank of fuel, around £80. And it means he's away all weekend and doesn't see ds. Oh and he's said she's never said thanks.

No YANBU

If he only actually sees his sister once every six months, then its not that bad I suppose.

YANBU.
It's nice he wants to help his sister, but ridiculous that it leaves you so badly out of pocket.

Stop being stupid. That's what families are for. I can't believe you get pissed off because your partner goes and helps his sister ONCE every six months.

We see his family every other week, we drive up there.

If his sister had no one fair enough but there's three other brothers, dad and HUSBAND!

And if its what family is for where were they when could have done with a hand oh yeah all helping her, even dp leaving me and two kids to pack and move!

I think it's lovely to have family like that

Mine are the same...nothing is too much trouble.

Is your DS not seeing his Dad for 1 weekend going to make him suffer some sort of unspeakable agony by the way?

She moves every 6 months because she gets bored and expects other people to run round after her making this happen? stop doing it.

Look, most people move less than twice a decade, not twice a year. If she and her DH had to actually deal with the consquences of their nomadic lifestyle, they might stop being so silly. If her DH had to pack and lug boxes, then he might tell her to stop being rediculous and to stay put. If she had to face the full costs of moving, she might start thinking of finding a home rather than a temp place to stay. Is she uprooting DCs as well twice a year? How disruptive! I bet her post is being delivered all over the town!

Tell him he will move her once a year, if he's done it for 2011, she's on her own until 2012.

It's more likely she rents on a 6 month contract

Oh, and is there a reason beyond getting bored for why she's moving? Is she a nightmare tenant so never gets a contract renewed? Is there something dodgy going on?

I really can't imagine why anyone would choose to move twice a year... that's just not normal.

If it really is just a lifestyle choice, perhaps you could all chip in to buy her a caravan, that way she can move her home without any packing being required...

She has a caravan

This tenancy is 12mnth contract but she's seen some on rightmove she fancies so is giving a months notice on dec 6th as she wants to move in january. Hopefully her reputation catches up soon and LLs refuse her she has brought herself out of two contracts, this has been going on since I was pregnant with ds, he's now nearly 4 and a half...

Yes she has children too, poor sod.

She's the family baby and only girl so thoroughly indulged.

There's NO privacy in dps family if she was being forced to move wed have the poooooor poor sil conversations daily

Thing is I'd class her as a good friend, were close but this is a real annoyance of mine. Ill do anything for anyone but I feel after 5yrs were being taken advantage off for no help in return. Dp is mr fix it and is forever doing things for everyone, so its never a case of just moving, he builds furniture, sorts any minor issues etc. Love him for it but christ were forever stretched or waiting as he's helping elsewhere.

So she doesn't need to move house at all!!! YANBU - tell your DH to say no. If she wants to be so rediculous as to uproot her family just after Christmas, she can find the money to do it.

Some people will be selfish until they are forced to realise that's what they are doing.