To have pangs of guilt about DS?

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DH and I are away for the weekend. 3 nights.
My mum is looking after DS, 4 next week. He adores grandma, and will have great fun, I have complete faith in her
We need this, we never have quality time together, DH works very long hours and is away a lot. We are going to a friends 40th, boat involved, no kids.
I feel so bad. DS would love to come to the beach, I will miss him and wish he was with us.

I just want to cry instead of looking forward to time with my husband

Go away and enjoy yourself!! He'll have a blast at grandmas Come back and have a nice family weekend with him next weekend :)

You sound like such a lovely mum to be so worried!

Please, don't feel guilty. DS will have a lovely time with Grandma and probably won't even notice you're gone, he'll be having too much fun on his own little holiday!

Why don't you take DS to the beach when you get back? Or maybe Grandma could take him, if it fits in.

Enjoy your quality time together, and DS will have some very happy parents to play with when you get back! :)

Looking after your marriage is one of the best gifts you can give your child, it really is.

Your ds would far prefer to get a fab time at Grannies and return home to two happy parents than be with you all the time and see you grow further apart.

You are on some level looking forward to this time with your husband though?

Er, yes of course ruby!
We can eat, drink and be silly
And sleep in, and swim and have lots of sex, yes I'm looking forward to it!

Thanks, I think I'm just a bit emotional!

aww how lovely for your ds to have such a concerned mummy. i got stuck in dubai when the ash cloud saga happened (oh darn it! lol) i was actually distraught i couldn't get home to dc's who had been with my parents for the week while i was away. Dc's didn't even notice/care i was gone longer and had had a great time.

moral of the story, you'll miss him more than he'll miss you

YANBU - it is totally normal to feel torn. Have a great time - agree with SAF.