To dislike the term PFB

[TheBloodCountessBathory]

My reasons being:

The PFB threads on here strike me as stealth boasting about what a good mother the poster is ie. "oh I read the works of Shakespeare to my one week old, wove her clothes by hand and only fed her organic veg that I grew in my own garden - ha ha aren't I silly!"

It makes me feel guilty - I had a lot going on during DD's first year so I didn't really have time to worry about the finer details, and I would have left her with the local postie had he offered, just to get a break. I would say I have a very relaxed parenting style but when I read those threads I feel like I SHOULD worry more about the little things (not confessing my lax mother mistakes on here, unless someone else goes first!!)

Am sitting here crying with laughter, I love MNers, you keep me sane [hgrin]

I think that it should really be PFTM (precious first time mother), the poor baby is blameless! I was my mother's PFB and I think that my brothers got it much easier once she had relaxed. I think we all do it-hopefully we can laugh about it later!

Those stories do make me feel a bit better

I was the Queen of PFB. I had a crown and everything. No ones infant was as G&T, beautiful or better taken care of than MY PFB DD. I cried as if my life was over once because my poor Mum gave my 6 month old a white chocolate button. I was convinced that she would grow up to be obese and Mum had RUINED my baby after my oh so careful organic, home grown, made from scratch introductions to solids......

Baked your own beans?, pah.

Now I look back and think, WTF?????

OMG I have POB an' all... There is really no hope for me.

Oh my word, I have tears rolling down my face. On iPhone app you can't click the links so off to troll classics to find if.

Ds is 5 months and I like to think I am not terribly pfb at all (except for regular feelings of guilt that I am not stimulating him enough) but will have to check other threads for accurate assessment!

DS is my POB.