To NOT phone XH and tell him the convo i just had with CSA?

[StaceymAloneForver]

As i have been talking about CSA on here for a few days i felt i should probably pull my finger out and find out why i hadn't heard from them sicne their assesment.

Only to be told that my XH has not answer their phone calls/letters for 3 weeks so the case worker will be putting in an attatchment to earnings order tomorrow morning if he hasn't heard from XH by then. If he does this he's putting the arrears on as the full amount (only leaving XH with 60% of his weekly earnings) as he's been such an arse pain.

Should i phone XH and tell him to phone them, when he might very well get the arrears reduced so he pays over 50weeks say instead of the 30 weeks at full rate.

Or do i go by the assumption that he won't ring them by tomorrow and be happy to get the arrears paid by the middle of next year? (if he keeps his job that long obviously)

stop micromanaging him

surely he knows how to answer a phone if it rings/reply to a letter. Its his lookout if he chooses to ignore it

i dont micromanage him, we barely have contact, just if he sets up a standing order i get my money b4 christmas, if it's attatchment to earnings it takes forever lol

If he is ignoring their calls, what's the betting payments will be messed around too? I'd be happier with the attachment to earnings.

I would try to speak to him and say the CSA aren't going to wait any longer but if he calls them today he will probably be paying less than if he ignores them and they go ahead due to his lack of cooperation.

I can understand however your wanting to let this happen, but I think the fair thing to do is to give him pre-warning, - you will feel better for it in the long run and keep your conscience clear.

leave it. If he can't be bothered talking to them, he's going to learn it's expensive to do so. If you call, the bad news is coming from you, it'll be your fault. If you don't call, it'll come from the CSA, and be nothing to do with you.

hopetheduck thats kinda what i was thinking, i'd be happier with the attatchment to earnings as unless he losses/quits his job (again) i get my money.

and obviously he could have just answered the phone to9 them as it was him who wanted it 'official' this time round (last time he was working we had a private agreement, based on the CSA calculator amount but CSA weren't involved)

Don't call him, let him take the consequences of being a dick.

I think you as the the messenger will be shot figuratively of course. He will blame you if you mention it opposed to blaming the CSA. He had his chance, he blew it so now has to take the repercussions of not playing ball with them.

Yanbu

If he has been left messages by the CSA, then he should already know that taking money from his earnings is a possibility. You won't be telling him anything he doesn't already know.

He has made his choice, he should face the consequences.

Don't call him, just leave it.

decision made, im not calling him. He should have been grown up enough to answer calls/return messages/letters. If this costs him more money so be it, no skin off my nose. Hopefully by xmas i shall have some money :)

If he asks why you didn´t call you could always say that you thought that there was no point as he probably wouldn´t answer the phone...

It is not going to cost him any more money. He already owes the arrears. If he pays them back over 30 or 50 weeks he will still pay back the same amount in the end.

It is his own fault for not bothering to return calls/letters (assuming they are calling the right number and sending to the right address).

Serves him right.

Glad you decided not to call him yanbu.

Leave it. Let him dig himself into a great, big bloody hole. Might teach him a lesson.