To have just shouted at (D)H for this....

[MrBloomsNursery]

DH told me he only had 1 month left on his mobile phone contract. I don't keep track of it, so believed him. He's paying £35 a month.

So 5 days ago he goes and takes out a new contract with Three, for an iPhone paying £35 a month. So effectively He would have paid £70 for one month. I told him he was wasting money, but then it was only 1 month.

So just now, My DDDH has phoned me (he's working late) and mentioned that T-mobile won't let him break the contract without paying £200....So he tells them he'd rather carry on paying £35 a month until the contract ends...Now here's the good part: His contract doesn't end until MARCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .

He's got a bloody xperia and an iPhone to pay for now until MARCH at £70 a month!!!!!.

We're having a baby at the end of the year!! We have expenses. I'm not working. We have bloody bills and did I mention: WE'RE HAVING A BABY?!!!!!

Where the hell is his head? I am so angry right now I'm getting braxton hicks and I don't know what to do. What a bloody complete idiot. GRRRRRRR .

deadfromthekneckup You took the words right out of my mouth.

If he's used it he cant take it back It has to be unused and unopened. very very daft of it. He will need to sell the xperia and pay off the contract.

Just texted him and told him to take the iphone back or sell the xperia. Won't get a reply though I bet. I hope there's not an unused, unopened policy..:(

He should have a cooling off period with the new contract, make him get onto it ASAP! I would be pretty pissed off too.

So, basically, he wanted a new toy and so he lied to you. Telling you his old contract was expiring when it wasn't, so that you wouldn't object to him getting his new toy and when you found out he'd lied it would be too late, he'd have it. Even though you have a baby on the way and money is tight.

He needs to grow the hell up.

I hope they do take it back.

If they don't then he needs to lose £35 a month from something else. clothes? entertainment? lunch?

hecate that's EXACTLY what he did. We normally buy things like this together, but he left for work early last week, and phoned me from work and told me he'd bought it . I was a bit annoyed, but I thought, "hey, his contract runs out next month, it'll be fine". He's really crossed a line with this.

I'm making him give it back. I can't believe he lied to me like this. Stupid man. Oh and he's 33 years old. So YES. He DOES need to grow up. FFS, we just bought a new car that cost nearly 3K...AND heating bills will go up in the winter. Just NO BRAIN. And the iPhone is practically the same as the xperia he already has...He could have survived 5 months without an iphone. OH and get this...he keeps saying it's 3 months up until MARCH. THREE MONTHS. Trying to make out I CAN'T COUNT OR SOMETHING!!!!! Thick thick thick.

Men are very simple....you ladies need to remember this. Take control of the family finances if he isn't up to it. My wife tells me what to buy/do with DD....i earn and spend....delegation.

Grow up, Dave.

No really Dave, that doesn't help - MEN grow up and take responsibility for themselves. These manchildren are a PITA and need to sort themselves out before they become fathers - or they just turn into whiny "what about meeeee" types who compete with the baby for affection.

No i was being serious. My wife hasn't had a great history with her finances in the past, she prefers I deal with our money now. Some people just have not had that teaching/inclination from parents/school.

If he is one of these, tell him and take control if need be.

no that's fair enough Dave - but the first part of your post wasn't at all. It is not UP TO US to let all men be simple folk what can't walk and talk at the same time - and suggesting we should is like lighting the blue touchpaper, frankly.

I have a friend who is married to a number-dyslexic DH - she does all the finances and gives him money whenever he needs it because he can't always key in a PIN correctly and even if he could is capable of taking out far more money than is in their account; and writing the wrong amount in a cheque. That makes sense. But it's not because he's a poor simple soul who can't manage his money!

Your right....I tried to add a little bit of humour.

Everyone should be expected to stand on their own feet to the best of their abilities.

just a thought - but when he said that he had 1 month to go, did he see the 'early up grade' as the end of his contract? My contract with Vodafone allows me to have an early upgrade months before my actual contract is due for renewal - he may have not realised

My DH would never let me forget it if I did something so stupid. If he did it himself (which would never happen, as he spends no money), he wouldn't sleep for the next six months.

Well the bloody phone isn't going back... I am so pissed off. Silent treatment for the next few weeks until I cool off. Bloody stupid man.

I would assume he is giving up leisure activities/treats to pay for it then?!

You stuck to your guns there...

Well the bloody phone isn't going back...

for what reason?

he could sell the other one on envirofone, you often get a good chunk back on newish phones

littlemissflustered I don't know what he's going to do. I don't care right now. I don't have the energy to start nagging him. If I wasn't pregnant there would have been some screaming and shouting, but I just can't be bothered. When he realises he's out of pocket when filling up the petrol for the car HE drives to work then he'll realise. Stupid people always realise they're wrong - it just takes longer.

There's £175 left to pay on the contract. Usually if you take out a new one then you will be bought out of the old one by the company (within last 6 months) on the basis they are buying your old phone off of you.

So I would say his best option now is to try and sell the xperia. (don't know how much they're worth).

I would also be saying that March to Aug, (after the double bills) you get £35 a month for you to treat yourself, he can sit at home playing on his new phone whilst you have a massage or something.

moaninminny I haven't had an in-depth conversation about what he's going to do. The reason the phone isn't going back is because he's a stupid little boy and wants a new toy. If he has a brain, he'll sell the old phone or give it to a friend and ask them to pay £35 a month for 5 months.

To be honest, whilst I can understand the aggravation of having financial worries, he is working, but is not allowed to spend any of the money that he earns on himself?

Things like mobile phones surely aren't joint expenses but should come out of individual budgets - I've no say in what phone my husband has, nor has he a say in what phone I get - things like that come out of our personal accounts, not the joint. So, if he cuts down on other of his personal expenses in order to finance his toy, then things should be alright.

Why are you currently not working?