AIBU to not treat other people's children as guests in my house?

[GhoulyNuff]

I do mean the ones that come round on a regular basis, not the first-time-overs!
I never thought this was odd, or unreasonable.
Except that I was talking with a good friend about it, and she thought I was a meany, who wouldn't "let kids be kids".

When there are extra kids around, be they family, or friends of my kids, I treat them all the same. My DD is 14, my DS is 12, and they have friends around prety much every day. I also have 4 nieces (1,3,4,7) who are often dropped off.
I expect all kids to follow the house rules, and they do. If they are there at meal times, they are welcome to stay. If they don't like what is on offer, I usally have an alternative, but I don't do the 6 different meals for six kids thing.
If I come home with a van load of groceries, I expect all kids to help unload and put stuff away. Even the little ones can put the potatoes in the potato box
If they sleep over, I expect them to help deflate air matresses in the morning, or fold up the couch, and to help tidy up.

I'm not a slave driver or anything, and I spend a lot of time with the kids doing things, like going to the beach or hiking or painting. I spend a lot of time talking with them too.

I just don't let them get away with any behaviour that my kids aren't allowed. They have to follow the rules and be accountable, or they don't come back.

Would you be cross if your child was asked to help out when they were at someone elses house? Or if they had to follow house rules?
AIBU?

I do tend to feed them a fair bit, but it is mostly home made, and fairly low cost. I use a lot of stuff from my little garden, and my mum's farm, which helps keep the costs down.

What a lovely thread: I had begun to believe that no one ever behaved like we did any more and felt quite sad.

There are so many threads/comments about "play dates", structured visits, or worry about other people's children's behaviour on these pages that I had stopped reading most of them because they felt so alien.

Our home was open house too and usually accommodated many more than the children who actually lived here - I LOVED it and miss it now they have all flown the nests and have nests of their own.

I don't think I even treat my adult guests like guests, if that involves offering them six alternatives for dinner or not asking them to give me a hand laying the table.