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To be hurt by bil and sil's actions?

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Moulesfrites · 25/10/2011 12:59

Bil and sil were due to have their 2 dds christened on Sunday. We had bought a gift, bought new outfits for ds and I, and we're looking forward to the day. A week before hand we got a text to say it had been cancelled. Turned out the vicar had had a nervous breakdown. I text sil to say what a shame it was, and also to ask whether she still wanted the gift, as it was a plate we did at one of those ceramics places and it had the date on, so obviously would be redundant now it wasn't going ahead on that date. She never replied.

Anyway, fast forward to this week, and we have just found out that the christening did go ahead after all. Apparently the church found a replacement. We have found this out through mil who is devastated that she was not invited. Bil's explanation is that they were doing 3 weeks worth of christenings in one go and it was going to be "a conveyor belt" so they didn't tell pil or us, or infact anyone on bil's side of family that it was going ahead. My dh's uncle and his wife, who they had asked to be godparents, had pallaned on traveeling up nd booked a hotel, and they were still under the impression that the christening was off, they are pretty upset too. They had sil's sister and her bf as other godparents as planned, and apparently sil's family were there.

I just feel really hurt by this. We have spent time and money preparing for the event,a nd have done nothing to warrant such treatment, we always send gifts and cards to mark special occasions but it was dh 's bday last week and he didn't even get a text from his brother. Wwyd in this situation? Aibu to be upset? It is not the first time theybhave acted so ignorantly towards my dh's side of family.

OP posts:
Rollon2012 · 25/10/2011 17:03

Aw you poor YANBU

Gigondas · 25/10/2011 17:10

Yanbu- rubbish thing to do. Aren't you meant to be christian if you have kids christened? In which case a congratulations with
Some bible verses about honouring your parents or do to others what you would have done to you may be in order.

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