To ask dn to wash his hands after his hands were down trousers and before touching dd ( 3 months)?

[Familydilemma]

I am persona non gratis because I did. I asked really quietly and kindly. He is really sweet with dd, but she likes to grab his hands and put them in her mouth and I just couldn't see hands down trousers out again and onto dd without saying something. Aibu?

yes, already started training ds not to do that and he is only 3.

yanbu.

think his mother is though thinking it is ok to let him touch a baby when hands have been down pants.

you hate small boys and think them disgusting?

Are you seeing a therapist for these ishoos?

My 5 year old rarely has his hands down his pants but this is merely because he spends as much time as he can, completely naked.

I remember what it is like to have a newborn and it does make you feel very strongly protective. It does wear off in time, so on balance I think YANBU, but it is very normal boyish behaviour.

Nope, YANBU, by 7yo, ALL children should know that's not something you do in public. Even my SN 7yo DS2 wouldn't get upset by being asked to wash his hands before touching 9mo DS3 if he'd been fiddling. In fact I ask him to wash his hands every time before playing with DS3, because who knows what he's been touching...

It might be 'normal' boyish behaviour in a 3yo - but I do NOT think it is 'normal' boyish behaviour to have your hands in your pants and NOT go and wash your hands straight away when you are 7yo. FYI I am the mother of one girl and 3 boys. I would have backed up ANYONE who had asked one of my DS's to wash their hands in this situation.

OP - YAdefinatelyNBU, your sister/ SIL IBvvvvU not backing you up - and having a go at you.

On a telly program DD used to watch they cultured what could be found up someones nose in a petra dish.

It wasn't nice.

But did have a lasting effect on DD on why you have to wash your hands after having a root about.

Absolutely nbu in the slightest. Hands should be washed before touching such a young baby, surprised anyone had a problem with it tbh...