Hi, shall I tell you about my day, and then you can tell me if IABU....
DH has taken this week off to care for our dd aged 6 in half term, as he hasn't taken much time off yet this year. I can only manage two days as I am saving some holiday for when dd finishes school at Christmas. So, I'm having a long weekend ( plus Monday and tuesday) with family, then DH and dd will have the rest of the week together.
DH decides after a weekend lazing at home and doing homey stuff like clearing the loft and a family bike ride which ended in a big row (another story), that Monday we will take dd to the think tank in Birmingham for a trip out. We will not bother with the car despite being only 40 minutes away, because dd hasn't been on a train before. He doesn't book tickets for trains ahead, but we do book think tank tickets online.
We get to the station, and pay 23 pounds return for two adults and one child, we are told we must return in off peak hours, ie before 4.30 pm. We set off around ten from our station. On boarding, there are very few seats on the train, so we spread out and I manage to get a seat across the aisle from dd. She is ok, but a little nervous, this is her first train journey. At the next stop, a lady arrives at dd's seat and asks her to move please as she has pre booked the seat. So dd sits on my knee and we carry on. We get to Birmingham and have a fair walk to the millennium point. We do think tank and come out around three o clock. I am feeling pretty tired, we have not had a sit down for ages and I need a drink. DH says if we hurry we can get the three thirty train home. So we are rushing back to the station.we get there to find we have missed the train. There will be another in 40 mins. But DH thinks he can squeeze us onto another train which is destined somewhere else but stops at our station on the way. We get there just in time. This train is packed full so we have to stand. I am 5 months pregnant with high blood pressure and feeling pretty knackered so I sit on the floor with dd. Not once has DH asked if I'm ok or mentioned the fact I may be tired. I am actually feeling Ill at this point. So DH says let's go to wetherspoons for tea when we get back to our town. I say please can we not, I'm so tired. He huffs and puffs and rolls his eyes and shakes his head. He won't make eye contact me for the rest of the train journey which is hell due to having to sit on the floor and more and more people getting on.
So when we get back to the station, I try to make conversation and he just snaps, "what's for tea then seeing as we are having our day out cut short?" the thought of going home and starting tea to his specification after such a weary journey fills me with dread, and the thought of refusing to make anything and putting up with his huffing and banging around the kitchen is just as bad. So we end up pub for a very sub standard tea which was hardly edible just to keep the peace. Dd enjoyed her day though :) is my DH an inconsiderate arse? I was energetic and enthusiastic for most of the outward journey and actual outing, it was all the walking, lack of sitting down and general rushing about that got to me in the end.