Miffed that dp is out having fun and im awake waiting for him to come home

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Im a new mum. Dc is 2 months old.
The past two months have been tough as dp could or would not really help out because of his work( on weekends he was doing work related things at home).
Fair enough, he has to do what he needs to do, but he hardly spends quality time with dc- he just sits her in her rocker if she is a bit grizzly and prefers the laptop to playing or figuring out what makes dc happy. I do all the housework and meals, so that he can spend more time with dc and feels relaxed when he comes home.
Tonight he is out in town, eating at a nice restaurant, drinking, and clubbing at fancy london clubs-- which he has never done with me in the three years of our being here in london. He is with a male and female friend ( one he used to fancy a lot). Maybe the hormones are making me feel jealous and paranoid, but aibu to feel annoyed that he gets to have a good time? Ive not had a night off since the birth.
Oh, And ive had my cry and rant at him previously for feeling unsupported by him, which did me good for a couple of hours.
Sorry, rant over now.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts

Love, it isn't the "womans' job" to reduce stress on her man by effectively absolving him of all family and home responsibilities

he chose to be a family man, didn't he ? Did you hold a shotgun to his head ?

all that does is buy into the idea that your only function is child carer, pot washer and general domestic appliance who puts out occasionally

if he is stressed at work he needs to sort that out

you see, there wil always be another "stress" won't there...and your resentment builds as you shoulder more and more of the homelife shitwork

bringing his stress home from work, so that you walk on eggshells from fear of rocking the boat, is a very poor basis for a relationship

if he is a decent bloke, as you say, does he admit he isn't being fair ?

Told him we are going to have a CHAT on the weekend, as he left this am for work- he is away till then.

You r def right re resentment building up. Need to stop that from ruining our rship. He does need to shape up. Its just a matter of him recognising what he hasnt been doing enough of.