to still be upset about this?

[Subtlenamechange]

I incurred the rath of a woman today. Quite badly. I actually feel I didn't desrve the fury.

Long story short.

I was at a softplay centre and nipped to the loo.
2 cubicles, both empty.
A woman came in obviously chatting to a DC.
The DC goes in first, as I come out, they swap so girl (about7) is outside the cubicle and mother is in the loo.
I washed my hands and then dried them under one of thse very noisy machines.
The girl started screaming and tryed to claw her way into the cubicle.
I move my hands straightaway and the noise soon stopped I started saying sorry to the little girl. The mother came flying out the loo shouted at me that the girl is autistic and I'm a stupid (stopped there).
I was taken aback tbh, and mumbled that i was sorry, didn't know, and wouldn't have done it... and so on.
I was really sorry that I had caused the girl stress and anguish, but there wasn't anything I could of done differently was there?
The rest of the time we were at this place she and her friend were making it obviously that they were talking about me and kept giving me daggers and sneering at my DC.

AIBU to still be upset 6 hours on? How would you of dealt with it?

I probably sound awful here but I am very reactive. If I had been asked by that child's mother to not use te hand drier I would not have used it.

However if the child's mother had had a go at me like that and called me stupid I probably would have went off it! Understand that's not the best reaction but I would have left her in no doubt who the stupid one was

She was probably just stressed out. I have considered going outside and asking someone to shut their car door, please get out of their car if they're going to rather than sit in it when ds1 has been going off on one and the windows have been threatened (again). But obviously I didn't (and a few windows suffered because of it).

It is upsetting when someone had a sudden go at you. Happened to me once (through no fault of mine) with ds3 and it upset me for the rest of the day. Knock back some wine and forget about it.

She might have been stressed out in the toilet cubicle saintly... But to then sit and whisper about op behind her back and sneer at her dc just makes her a snidey cow too...
Imo
puts on hard hat

I wasn't particularly excusing her. Just saying why she might have flown off the handle in the first place. I never have (well not for this sort of thing, only for people making idiotic/ignorant comments - and then I tend to be more of a mutterer) - but I do know how stressful it is when you know your child is going to meltdown in public and you can do nothing to stop it. As I already said she didn't exactly place herself in the best position to help the girl.

I wasn't particularly excusing the mother, more saying why I thought the OP shouldn't really give it another thought.

I think it's my hormones saintly
I feel enraged on OPs behalf and I wasn't even there!
needs... Cider

lol - cheers, I'm off to bed on a couple of glasses of wine!

It is horrible when you're shouted at for no reason. It did happen to me once and it was so unfair and unjust and upsetting I remember it 5 years later but really it's about the other mother and her inability to cope and not the OP. She didn't do anything wrong!

It wasn't your fault at all.

It was entirely her fault and she should be ashamed at herself for shouting at you and for carrying on after you all left the bathrooms.

She really isn't going to help her DD at all :( Poor Kid.