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Original poster

to think my husband is being a knob

51 replies

filiscare · 20/10/2011 13:05

Or am I just so tired its clouding my judgements.
This week (as most weeks) has consisted of getting up at four ish in the morning with ds, getting ready for work, going to work coming home making tea eating tea putting ds to bed, going to bed. I am, for want of a better word, fucked. Yesterday, as I work flexi I decided to finish at three however I don't drive, got to bus stop, realised had forgotten purse. Mil lives five mins from where I work and always offers to give me a ride home if I need it. So I called and asked if it was ok. She said yes and came and took me home.
Dh was pissed off I had asked his mum for a lift.
I have just been sick at work and been sent home (just in case its that nasty bug going around so i dont infect anyone else) personally I think its exhaustion.
The help thing is a separate issue but I don't understand why he went in a strop about me asking his mum for a lift when I'm drowning and need some quiet time to myself.

OP posts:
ScaredTEECat · 20/10/2011 13:06

He is, in fact, a knob.

moonshineandspellbooks · 20/10/2011 13:06

If the MIL Is willing, I really don't see what his problem is. [hconfused]

LesserOfTwoWeevils · 20/10/2011 13:08

YANBU. He should be embarrassed that it's his mother who's helping you out when you're ill and not him.

chirpchirp · 20/10/2011 13:08

Yep, definitely a knob. Is he completely blind to the fact of how much you do?

MonaLotte · 20/10/2011 13:09

He does sound very unsympathetic.

Does your DS always get up at 4? Does he go back to sleep or is he awake from then on? It's no wonder you are shattered [hsad]

If your mil was happy to pick you up I don't see the problem.

ljgibbs · 20/10/2011 13:10

He is a knob.

snowmummy · 20/10/2011 13:10

No idea what his problem is. Your MIL has offered and that's that. He needs to help at home as well.

nomoreheels · 20/10/2011 13:12

Yep, big ol' knob.

Why isn't he helping more?

Shodan · 20/10/2011 13:14

Yup. He's a knob.

Why on earth is he not getting up on some of those early mornings to give you the chance of more sleep?

zingzillachinchilla · 20/10/2011 13:14

He sounds charming Hmm. What's his issue with you calling his mother? Based on the info you've provided, he's a knob and your MIL is lovely!

tigermoll · 20/10/2011 13:15

It does sound like he's being VU, - maybe there is something else going on?

It seems such an unlikly thing to strop about, so maybe you should (calmly and in a spirit of senisitivity) ask him why it bothered him so much.

He will then either have to give you a reason (guilt, mother issues, etc) or admit that he over reacted.

Then I think you should have another chat with him about doing alternate early-waking with your dc. It's not fair that its always you.

Tortington · 20/10/2011 13:15

husband wanker

SquishyCinnamonSwirls · 20/10/2011 13:16

Nice MIL.
Knob of a 'd'h.
4 am starts every day are no joke, no wonder you're so shattered.
What exactly is he doing to help you?

FearTricksPotter · 20/10/2011 13:22

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mumsamilitant · 20/10/2011 13:27

YANBU, he's more than a knob, he's a knob with bells on.

Original poster
filiscare · 20/10/2011 13:28

mona he used to sleep til about six, now for the past few weeks he had a tummy bug then a cold which strangely always got him up about 4-4.30.
He will usually go back to sleep but by the time this has happened I am too awake and conscious of the fact I have to be up at 0630 for work and so can't drop back off. Plus I have alot on my mind at the mo which doesn't help.
I have asked him for more help and things do get better for a bit. But then....

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Ephiny · 20/10/2011 13:31

I don't understand - how does it affect him if his mum gave you a lift? If it was a one-off, and she offered, it's not as though you're taking advantage of her or anything.

Why do you have to get up at 4am every day, do you start work very early or have a long commute? That sounds exhausting. Is your DH pulling his weight at home and with looking after DS? If you're both working, he shuold be doing his bit.

duvetdayplease · 20/10/2011 13:42

Hmm, that does sound rather knobbish behaviour, sorry. Really don't understand why he's bothered - its nice of her isn't it? Does he have other issues with his mum?

ItWasABoojum · 20/10/2011 13:48

Another vote for knob here. And another cry of 'why the arse isn't he doing more of the early mornings/tea preparation?'

picnicbasketcase · 20/10/2011 13:52

Knobby McKnobsworth.

Pakdooik · 20/10/2011 13:54

Secretary General of the Uknobby Nations

PandorasSocks · 20/10/2011 13:54

Sir Knobby de Knob of Knobsville.

MonaLotte · 20/10/2011 13:57

Oh dear hopefully he might manage to sleep later once he is better. Also the fact it is getting light later on may help.
Your D knob H should offer to help out more [hangry]

CalmaLlamaDown · 20/10/2011 14:02

YANBU, it is really weird that it bugged him - did he say why he was annoyed that you asked his mother?

PhilipJFry · 20/10/2011 14:06

Maybe he's angry because he thinks her doing that shows him up as not doing enough...which he ISN'T. Knobber.