to not want a bloody proposal ??

[grrrrswans]

I'm not very into the whole wedding thing. Actually I'm more of a jean and tshirt down the registry office with maybe a party for everyone a few weeks later (If i didn't my parents would be gutted and I have a massive family - as oes DP)
I do want to be married though - the significance of it I like (I just don't need all the extra faff- I don't do faff)

Me and DP were talking about weddings/marriage thing again tonight (he's best man in a few weeks for his bf)

We differ on the 'dream' wedding but both would compromise on it except.

DP has always wanted to propose to someone. On bended knee, with a ring and a surprise sort of proposal.
Except why worse nightmare is that, I hate the idea of it have done since I was a teenager. And had to tell him if he 'asked' I would have to say no - that is how much I hate the whole 'proposal'. (I can't explain my hatred of the idea)

My god his face.

AIBU to NOT want to get bloody proposed to even though it is DP dream?

Ummm imperial - I'm not one for saying it, actually I feel odd saying that 'I love you' I do say it sometimes, but I over analyse it in my head about when I'm saying it, what will he do etc (completely irrational I know)
I will txt it to him/write it down though (I often do as I know he likes to hear it) and find it a lot easier on the phone. I'd rather do it silently if that makes sence, I'm not vocal in that way (though I love and love to talk and i'm no shrinking violet)
Why?

I just wondered! A proposal is about as romantic as you can get (well, a good one is, anyway) and in it most people would declare undying love. I wondered whether this was what you'd find embarrassing.

Fair enough- and yes that (it is very DP like) and the rest of it as well.

knee, ring, etc

"Will you marry me?"

"Only if you bloody get up"

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Glad you've found a compromise :)

You could make it into a sort of challenge - make him propose in a suitably unconventional manner, using his imagination and a bit of forward planning and you'll consider his proposal

"grrrrswans Thu 20-Oct-11 19:47:42

I'm glad you came to a compromise that suits you both and congratulations (if i'm allowed :P to say it)"

Weird post there.... [hhmm]

No one is really being unreasonable for having different desires than someone else but really, come on. This poor man wants to do something he thinks is lovely. He will probably have to compromise on the wedding so don't take away one of the only things that the man really does.

People change you know. When I was a teenager I probably had different ideas to now.

I did tell DH I didn't want a public proposal but other than that, his gig.

I was thinking that, Oggy. Is that what is known as a sock puppet fail