I did consider name changing for this but hey ho words on a screen!
I work in the public sector, same profession for 19 years, worked my way up to management level. I am due promotion next year, been waitng a few years but it is pretty much on the cards for 2012. I am also due to move jobs in the middle of next year so will be moving on promotion. My type of job entails a move every couple of years, not an issue normally. DH is SAHD so mobile, DC young enough that it has little impact so far. DD really good at starting new schools and making friends etc
My ExH works for the same employer but in a different specialisation. We had been together a few years, married and then he had an affair within 6 months. I left him, divorced, met new DH and now am happily married with 2 beautiful DC. So far since my Ex and I split I have managed to avoid being in the the same location as him. I don't particulalrly want to see him on a regular basis as I am still hurt by the way I was treated and he really winds me up with his "whiter than white" persona he portrays.
He is due to move jobs in the early part of next year and is moving to work in the building and town I wanted to move to next. Its a large building with several hundred people in but is very open plan and the type of environment we work in means I will end up seeing him there regulalrly as well as having to go to the same social functions through work.
If I take the job I want we get to stay living in the same area we are in now, DD gets to stay at the same school, DH gets to go to his preferred uni of choice when he goes back inot education next year and I would be doing the job I want in an environment that is good for me professionally. It is the one area of my job I need to demonstrate my abilities in that I haven't had chance to do so yet. however this isn't the only chance to go there. I could go elsewhere fo this job and then come back in a few years. It would mean that I end up working in the same building as ExH for 2 years.
If I take another job we would move about 200 miles away, DD changes school and DH has to commute much further to go to Uni (only 2 in the country do the course he needs) this will increase our childcare costs fairly significantly. Their is a job there I am interested in but it is in a similar area to one I have done already. Professionally this is not as good for me but it means I don't have to see my cunt of an Ex all the time?
So AIBU to consider turning down an interesting and career improving job just because I have to work near my cunting EXH?