AIBU to think that being 'stressed' is no excuse? - WARNING - upsetting

[SephreniaRidesABroomstick]

I just came across this article in the Daily Fail (I know, I know) and words fail me, they really do. Many of us were (and are) young mothers and we would never dream of hurting a child in any way, shape or form.

AIBU in thinking that the judge was right in saying that this woman's defence of being stressed is no excuse?

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Couldnt read the article as no amount of stress would cover hurting your own child . That poor little boy absolutely heartbreaking.

May09Bump- You say excatly what Im thinking

:( I have no words for this evil evil bitch of a woman.

She looks a bit like Jon Venables. Evil look in the eyes.

Makiko - have an un-MN like . I hope things are better for you now.

I apologise for using your post as an illustration but it highlights exactly why I thought being stressed was no excuse. You suffered terribly during those first few months and not once did you lay a hand on your child other than through love.

This woman did more than lay a hand on that poor baby and chose a crappy excuse to try and shift the blame

I agree completely with everything moonshineandspellbooks People are increasingly bringing children into this world in situations of social and family turmoil.

Many times in these cases, the relationship which conceived the child is already broken, and many, many more times it arises that the mother of said child/children has been brought up emotionally and financially deprived, is still emotionally and financially deprived, has chronically low self esteem, and is in thrall to some kind of passive aggressive man whom because of her low esteem she CANNOT easily break away from. A child is an accident just waiting to happen in these situations.

Removing temporarily the anger over this poor baby's suffering, I think more must be done to help young girls before they become mothers in these situations. We are sending out very damaging messages to young girls and boys via the media and everything else about their self-worth and the value of sex. We have removed the dicussion of sex education and parenthood completely away from the context of family. It seems to be only centred on sexual protection, which is pointless for girls like the one in article, they really don't care about anything other than themselves and do not think ahead to a bright future of possibilities.

Young women like this are wicked yes, but they have also been let down somewhere.

I read this story yesterday and it broke my heart. That poor child.

I pity the mother. What sort of disturbed and damaged person commits such awful acts against a defenceless baby? Her life may as well be over, too, because she will never be able to redeem herself over this. I predict a long life of severe mental health problems for her.

Her life will be made an absolute misery in prison by other inmates and even wardens, mark my words.

And she had family living next door? Bloody hell, are they all mad/blind/stupid in that family?

I skip read it - too horrible - but at least I didn't see a quote from her family blaming social services. That always makes my blood boil - yes, mistakes get made and children suffer, but what ever happend to family getting involved and helping out/sticking their noses in?

Why do people like this want to keep their babies anyway? They obviouslly don't want them/can't love them/can't be bothered to look after them and there are so many loving people who would jump at the chance of adpoting them.

It was definitely not stress that induced this treatment of her baby, a mother who is under the most severe stress would never do this. The woman is a sociopath.

Christ! Yes he was right. I am not sure there could be an excuse.

I just had to get up from my desk (having a MN skive in work) and go to the toilets because the story made me cry. That poor poor boy. She should have been given life, as she has ruined his :(

ai ai ai, sad reading. poor mite
scum bitch. I just hope she gets transferred to big prison and gets a fair battering

but that wont change the life for her battered baby

I hate to say this, but I almost wish she had killed him as his life will be one of pain and no love. I hate saying that, but thats what I think

In tears over this. So, so unspeakably sad and horrific. I have an almost 8 month old DS (5 months corrected) with severe reflux and the first few months at home with him were so hard. He was so uncomfortable and miserable most of the time and sometimes I felt so helpless and angry that I wanted to harm myself - but never him.