Was I in the wrong here?

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Also posted in chat - but thought more people would see it here.
Dh just popped round the corner to FIL's to help him find a 'chuck key' dh had used recently (don't know what one of those is - but nevermind!). Dh must have lost it, as he phoned me from B&Q asking me to look in the kitchen cupboard to find his B&Q trade card.

I was in the middle of making lunch for the kids and couldn't find this card anywhere. I admit to being irritated with dh for losing the key and for being disorganised. I was a bit snappy with him on the phone and probably had a bit of a rant at him for being so careless, as I was busy trying to do other things at the time.

Didn't think much of it - but dh came back and said I was not to speak to him and that the guy at B&Q said his Ex wife used to speak to him like that. Apparently B&Q man could hear me on the phone blush. I feel like dh was a bit mean to tell me this and it was not of B&Q man's business. I thought I was having a private discussion with dh. Feel a bit stupid and embarrassed now sad

And hell yeah we bicker

Lots of snappy, two minute 'Ffs!' over and done with bickers.

Maybe the B&Q man is a misongenistic twat?

Wanting to recruit OH to the cause?

Just a suggestion..

It was for her Worra. At least when I'm talking to someone on the phone, I do really assume there is only the two of us in the conversation.

She wasn't to know that Mr B&Q was earwigging and shaking his head sadly at her husband.

You were unreasonable for ranting

B&Q man was unreasonable for inferring that the reason that his wife is now ex is because she spoke to him like that based on a snapshot of a conversation

Apologise to your DH and let it go - it's not really a biggie.

it is unreasonable to "snap" and "rant" at someone like a child for mislaying something. we all do it, its not on purpose. Would you be annoyed if he ranted at you in public for mislaying something insignificant?

I would be fuming if someone disrespected me in that way

Maybe the B&Q man is a misongenistic twat?

or maybe he had a wife who disrespected him as well lol

You were both wrong.

No-one has the right to say you are 'not to speak to them like that'. He should not give you orders!

OTOH, if my DH ranted or snapped at me I would be upset, especially if it were habitual and especially if I'd only made a mistake! That's really nasty. If you do habitually do this, why?!

If my husband snaps at me I say 'dont snap at me'

I dont fume and get all upset.

Because I am a grown up.

People snap,they bicker, they say sorry, they get over it.

A chuck key is used to secure and change drill head on a drill. I wouldn't have a go at DH for losing it - they are quite small and easy to lose (which is why stores have stocks of replacements - they're like losing a single drill head which will always be the one needed) though I would ask why his trade card would be in a kitchen cupboard.

It was a private phone conversation, the B&Q guy shouldn't have been earwigging. He should've shut his ears or moved away so he couldn't hear.

I think there is a difference between saying 'don't snap at me' and 'you are not to talk to me like that'. The second one makes you look like a wanker.

You shouldn't talk to anyone like that, in an ideal world.