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AIBU?

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to bring home this strangers washing?

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MsWetherwax · 15/10/2011 22:23

I work one day a week as a receptionist, in an environment where there is a communal laundry room. The washing machine has been out of use for nearly a fortnight, and this afternoon an older gent came in to complain that it hadn't been fixed, he had no clean clothes and his grandchildren are visiting on Monday. He seemed genuinely distressed. So I bought some of it home and washed it. By pure chance I am covering for a colleague tomorrow, so it's not putting me out too much but my DP has gone absolutely mental, apparently because I don't know him the mans washing "could be diseased" and I am a mug for helping. Is he right or do I stick to my belief that Karma will out?

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MsWetherwax · 15/10/2011 22:52

No he was definately pissed off. I really can't see the problem. Its not as if I put it in with his pants or anything. I'm saving them for the chilli wash

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KittyFane · 15/10/2011 22:57

You are lovely and kind :)
Your DH is being a
tell him you'll bleach the machine on 90 degrees afterwards just for him !!!

HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead · 15/10/2011 23:02

Make up a bleach solution to scrub him down with when he turns up with those nasty diseased pub germs on him later won't you MsW?

ImperialBlether · 15/10/2011 23:04

He is so unreasonable calling you 'babe'!

He's also unreasonable saying, "Knowing you he's probably a smelly old tramp." What the hell does that mean?

lisad123 · 15/10/2011 23:06

Better tell him that you can't do his washing in your flea washing machine now and your too kind and so therefore he has to do his own

smartyparts · 15/10/2011 23:07

You are very kind.

Your dp is BU for calling you 'babe'

KittyFane · 15/10/2011 23:07

lisad good idea :o

HollywoodAgentForTheLivingDead · 15/10/2011 23:11

IB, I took him saying 'knowing you...' to be him knowing MsW doesn't put any conditions on her generosity and doesn't separate people into deserving/undeserving with regards to how they look or live.

I'm amazed she's ended up with someone so different to herself.

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MsWetherwax · 15/10/2011 23:11

We have different views on lots of things. DP is a bit of a snob (albeit he comes from a modest background) I am a little more liberal. I like Freecycle, and the concept of helping random strangers for no personal gain. DP is a little more cut throat, and very black and white. He does have many good points, but fails to comprehend what he calls my "Hippy Dippy shit" I neither smoke pot or wear tie dyed clothes incidentally, I just believe in Karma. You get back what you put in etc...) It's nice to be nice....isn't it?

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MsWetherwax · 15/10/2011 23:13

I don't actually mind babe, its preferably to my real name. I don't know what my mother was thinking!

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FoxyRoxy · 15/10/2011 23:17

YANBU your DH is.

ChippingInToThePumpkinLantern · 15/10/2011 23:18

MsW - I would have done what you did as well, it's only a load of washing FFS, it's not like you invited him to come & stay!!

I couldn't bear to be married to someone so mean spirited as your DH.

Seabright · 16/10/2011 00:01

You did a really lovely thing; isn't this called "paying it forward"? You do someone a good deed without any immediate return and someone will randomly do something lovely for you in the future.

Whereas your DH will drink beer that's a bit off in the pub tonight and end up with an upset stomach - karma!

runningwilde · 16/10/2011 04:53

What a lovely thing to do! Your husband's attitude is just horrible.

sunnydelight · 16/10/2011 08:11

You are right, and kind. I believe in karma too.

HattiFattner · 16/10/2011 08:16

so its not that he really objects to the washing per se, just to the fact that you didnt charge him?

Germs and diseases - poof! - all gone when you add a fiver to the mix.

He is a tightfisted fool, and you should remind him that you are lovely and kind.

seaweedhead · 16/10/2011 08:20

Well obviously YANBU - just very kind.

Your DP sounds a teensy bit paranoid- does he normally have germ issues?

mousyfledermaus · 16/10/2011 08:24

that was very kind of you.
if you are in any way worried that your washing mashine will start coughing because it is diseased do a service wash with 90 degrees.

LCarbury · 16/10/2011 08:35

Show your DP how to run the tub clean cycle if he's that bothered. You did a lovely thing.

flatbellyfella · 16/10/2011 09:56

You are Very kind, it's a wonderful act of kindness you did there, you were not being unreasonable to take it home.

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MsWetherwax · 16/10/2011 20:48

Thank you for all the support. DH has been shown this thread, with lots of pointing and saying see? See? from me over his shoulder and has agreed that perhaps he over reacted somewhat. Chap picked his washing up this morning, was very grateful and asked me if I'd like to have dinner with him one evening. I don't think he was being innapropriate, but declined anyway. He seemed very happy to have clean clothes though.

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KittyFane · 17/10/2011 22:05

Brilliant! I love the invitation for dinner- and now your DH has every reason to be upset after all!!! :o

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 17/10/2011 22:09

Awwww, the world needs more people like you op. [smile

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 17/10/2011 22:09

Oh ffs.

skybluepearl · 17/10/2011 22:18

what a mean man he is - but married to such a kind lady

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