To not want to work full time

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I always worked part time since having children between 14-30 hrs, basic wage etc. Now I've been offered a full time job, good money the only down side is every other week I'll be doing afters, finishing 10pm. I have a 10 month old who I've not yet left longer than 4hours and a 4 year old. On the crap shift week I'll not see my little boy (4) at all as his dad will be taking him to school and he'll be in bed when I get back. I'm also really close to my baby and it breaks my heart thinking about leaving him. But! finically we would be so much better off if I took this job, we could relax a little, treat kids etc. Aibu to secretly not wanting it? I can't stop thinking about it

Give it a try and see how you feel after a couple of months. I cannot see, however, why you would not be able to take your child to school when you are on the 'afternoon shift'.

I work most weeknights until around midnight and am up by 6am, I just have a few more hours at the weekend. However I accept that marking and planning is a different type of work. I also have holidays to recover.

If you can afford it don't work full time, I hate having to work full time and would reduce my hours at the drop of a hat if I could afford to. Dp is the one in our relationship who has been lucky enough to make that choice.

I agree if you have debts you need to work full time.

I did what you describe when my DC where little- they loved the time with their DF and loved him taking them to school.
You will have the whole morning with your DC and then the week after every evening.
This is an opportunity for you to get out of debt and get financially secure - |I would give it a try .

Thank you all. I'm going to give it a shot! Feel a terrible mum for it though, I'm hoping the guilt will pass. I'd be earning more than dh so I would be daft not to take it.

Do you know what OP, it will be great for your DP to spend more time and be more involved with the kids. Stop thinking you're a crap mum and start thinking you're both great parents to be pulling together in this way to build a future for your family

Thank u Wilson that's a lovely thing to say

Agreed - getting your family out of debt makes you a good parent - not a bad one.

If u can afford not to and dont want to.then dont. I have worked pt since dd was 6 months old. I knew fairly early on that I was only going to be able to have 1 child so i decided that iwas not going to miss it! It has meant being poorer but alot more relaxed and happy.

Sorry op just read the bit about clearing debts, totally understand and think that would probably make you feel happier long term, will read more of the thread in future.