AIBU regarding picking DSS up?

[whackamole]

DSS' mum moved 200 miles away about 6 weeks ago. We don't have a car, so have to do half-way pick ups and drop offs. So far, we haven't had any visits since the move, partly because we were only given 3 weeks notice of the move and just couldn't work things with work etc.

OH wants DSS to come and visit from next Saturday to the following Saturday as it is his half term. I wouldn't have a problem with this, except I will actually be 40 weeks pregnant next Saturday.

If I have had the baby by then, I have no problem with DSS being here as OH will be on paternity leave. If I haven't, then I will basically be alone looking after DSS and DTS who are 2.8. Plus, we have a problem that we have no one to look after the children when I go into labour.

OH is currently arranging that his dad will go and do the collection, which is kind of him (first time volunteering for anything I might add! Haven't seen him since January) so that takes a load off my mind, but I really don't want to be the one to have to do the entertaining etc at 40-41 weeks pregnant. Plus, I am really not feeling well with this pregnancy at all.

BTW, I really do want to see DSS, this has nothing to do with him exactly, just the timing couldn't be worse from my perspective.

AIBU? Or have I not thought about something that could sort everything out? Also, if I haven't had the baby till the second weekend, it means OH has to do the drop off, which means a 5 hour round trip with DSS while I am home alone with DTS, which at 41 weeks I really don't want to be doing!

Sorry for the length

HI ladies thanks again for all your input. I have slept in this morning, so while I still feel the same about the situation I think I'm a bit more rational!

We spoke with DSS mum a couple of weeks ago (he was late starting school there due to an LEA mix up I believe) and she gave us the holiday times. At that point I remember both of us commenting that half term really couldn't have been at a worse time in terms of the pregnancy! She's very easy come, easy go when it comes to arangements so she probably hasn't made any concrete plans. If she has, obviously it's a moot point. I know that OH did tell her I would be full term during that week so it might not be possible, and that they'd play it by ear. I was hoping to have had the baby by now but....sadly not!

I am still worried that if I go into labour 10 minutes before OH is due to get on the bus to take DSS home, I will be stuck at home with 2 little boys for an indefinite amount of time before someone can come and help out, unless I bite the bullet and bully FIL into looking after them. I was induced last time, so have no idea how long this labour will last - I never thought I would wish for a long one!

OH has taken the other boys out for the morning, they should be back soon. I think I will ask him if he could possibly ask him dad to pick him up for Saturday, then drop him off for Tues/Weds. It's not ideal, but at least he gets to come and stay for a bit. FIL offered originally because he has a week off on holiday, I will of course pay for the train/bus fares.

BTW we speak to DSS at least every other day and Skype etc, he knows the baby situation and knows we all miss him and can't wait for him to come and visit. I'm one of those BTW - I really miss him and was devastated when we were told they were leaving. I just can't get over the unbelievably bad timing of it all! The last thing I want to do is push him out, he was there the day I gave birth to his brothers (after I mean) so will undoubtedly be different this time, it's just so hard to juggle.

Just to follow up, OH has told me he has spoken to DSS mum, he will be coming on Saturday picked up by FIL and his stepdad will be picking him up the following Friday. They moved because he work relocated him from here to there so clearly he still has business to conduct in the area. This has put my mind at rest a bit.

OH has also explained to DSS that he will not be around (he works 10-4 so not as bad as it could be) and that he might have to entertain himself, DSS apparently said that was fine so long as he could see us.

Now I feel absolutely horrible and selfish that I could have kicked up such a stink .

On the plus side, have just eaten an entire pineapple, will drink my raspberry leaf tea and do some nesting to GET THIS BABY OUT!