AIBU to ask my sister if she is gay?

[rainbowrabbit]

Name change but been around a while.

I have never known my younger sister to have a 'boyfriend' or any 'friend' really. Over the last few months she has been around a lovly polish girl - lots of polish people in her place of work.

I have always had my suspissions she was gay and either way i couldn't care aless if she was with somone who will make her happy - i have had a bit of a snoop on facebook - some of her friends arnt so hot on the security and have seen some photo's and comments that she is in a relationship with this lady.

WIBU to ask her? If presume she will tell me if/when she is ready but but just saying hey sis is xxxx your girlfriend then?

I think our mum would quite like it if one of her daughters were gay makes her a bit different than her cousins and she could chat to her sisters about how great she is about it all- and my dd who's 5 already knows that 'somtimes woman marry woman and men marry men but mostley girls marry nice boys' ;) she helpfully quoted this to my DH uncle and partner ;) - i think she wants to be a bridesmaid again......

Maybe that's what's putting her off 'coming out' if she is actually gay?

Perhaps she doesn't want to be treated differently or seen as different. As for your Mum 'chatting to her sisters about how great she is about it all'....well maybe that sort of thing would make her cringe?

Personally I'd leave her be and if she wants to tell you she will.

I don't think I'd ask her straight out (if you'll excuse the pun). Maybe next time you meet up get chatting about relationships and then ask if she is seeing anyone. It leaves it up to her whether she tells you then. Plus if she is straight you don't have to do any potentially awkward back peddling!

I 'knew' my DB was gay from when he was about 13, he came out to me when he was 20, I didn't bat an eyelid as I'd 'known' for so long, he said that he had only realised it when he was 17!

I'm glad I left it up to him to tell me when he was ready, it took him 3 years to properly understand it himself. I know that he was younger than your sis, but this could be a new thing for her and she may want to make sure that this is who she is before being ready to talk about it with her family.

Even if she knows that everyone will be fine with it, it is still a massive thing to share with your family. I personally would wait for her to tell you.

Yabu, it's up to her to come out, not be outed. If this had happened to me it would have been an upsetting time, it can be strenuous enough without someone spring a question like that.

If she is happy and that makes you happy why is that not enough? Some people don't appreciate labels.