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AIBU to not want a workman to poo in my toilet?

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 14:00

Earlier today I was having my boiler serviced and two men came to do it.

The older man said 'can I use your toilet' , I said 'yes of course' and directed him to the bathroom. Thinking he just needed to pass water

But he had a poo in it! He was in there a good 10 minutes and has colleague was looking embarressed as we chatted.

It stank ! Really stank ...why do people think it's ok to poo in someone elses house

Would it be unreasonable to refuse workmen toilet access in future [hshock]

I'm using the term workmen because I don't know what else to call them

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MollyTheMole · 14/10/2011 17:20

poor guy, I hope he sensed your clenched-sphincterness and has hid a poo nut in your handtowel for a laugh

LostInTheWoods · 14/10/2011 17:20

And quite frankly, to call other people "bitches" when you're so rude and inhosiptable as to deny a person you have invited into your home the use of a toilet.... Well, it's bizarre.

pigletmania · 14/10/2011 17:21

Do you know how it makes you look op. Would you rather he nipped home waste more time thus costing you more money in he long run.

LostInTheWoods · 14/10/2011 17:22

A good upbringing means not that you won't spill sauce on the tablecloth, but that you won't notice it when someone else does.
Anton Chekhov

IslaValargeone · 14/10/2011 17:29

There is a middle ground between passing water and pissing you know.

LostInTheWoods · 14/10/2011 17:31

I thought that was the digestive system, Isla?

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 18:02

would you all like it if came round to house and shat in your loo?

I AM NOT BEING UNREASONABLE

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pigletmania · 14/10/2011 18:05

No I woulden't one little bit, because unlike you I have more empathy. Yes workman have used me loo, and guess what, I survived and have not caught any nasty lurgy. God help you op!

pigletmania · 14/10/2011 18:06

Why the hell have you come on AIBU then, if you clearly think you are not Hmm. With such a view as yours you are going to expect people to strongly disagree with you, are Iam afraid in the minority.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 18:11

If you just came round and I didn't know you and you walked in and had a crap, I probably wouldn't like it.

If you were a guest in my house, or working in my house, and you needed to go - I would not mind at all. I have a fully functioning toilet. Actually, I have two. They exist for people to pee and crap in. That includes guests.

You don't feel you are being unreasonable. That's fine. Why did you ask though if you don't want people to give their opinions, but just to agree with you? People don't have to see it your way. They aren't wrong because they don't agree with you. You put the scenario out here and invited opinions. That was your choice. When you choose to do that, you can't really get cross when people give the opinions that you invited them to give, can you?

ElsieMc · 14/10/2011 18:23

I used to be reasonable about this sort of thing until the carpet fitter took a huge dump in my loo and completely blocked it, but didn't bother to tell me just left the odour wafting round my home. My friends told me to ring up his bosses and complain, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it somehow, what on earth do you say?

2rebecca · 14/10/2011 18:27

I'm sure he didn't deliberately block the loo though, and would have though a large bucket from a height would have cleared it.
Would never occur to me to complain about something like that. To me it's no difference to coughing or blowing your nose or urinating in someone else's house. If your employment involves you being in other people's houses rather than having an office then of course you go to the loo in other people's houses, just like I go at work and kids go in school toilets.
To me going to the loo is going to the loo, which orifice the waste comes out of is irrelevent.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 18:29

so I'm odd and unreasonable because I don't want a random shitting in my toilet?

he left a smell and was in there for 10 minutes then never washed his hands

that's just not on in my book

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 18:33

lol I asked if I was unreaonable because I thought I might be but having read through the responses I've decided I'm not .

I will tell the next random 'yes you can visit my batroom but don't shit in it'

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HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 14/10/2011 18:35

You are unreasonable because you appear to be demanding that everyone sees it your way.

You asked for opinions.

You got them.

You don't like them so you are calling people names and being aggressive.

That is very unreasonable.

Many people disagree with you that it is an unacceptable thing. It is not an unacceptable thing for everyone. Accept that not everyone agrees with you that other people cannot use someone's toilet. Most people would not deny someone the use of a toilet. It is a basic need that people have - to use the toilet.

If you ask people if you are being unreasonable - it is not unreasonable of them to give their opinions.

Since this makes you so angry that you start calling people names, I suggest you just don't ask again. It will save you a lot of hassle. It's just not worth getting yourself into a fury because people on the internet don't agree with you.

LetThereBeRock · 14/10/2011 18:35

Why the hell did you ask if you're being unreasonable if all you're going to do is whinge when people tell you that you are being unreasonable. This forum is called Am I being unreasonable? not Agree with me or I'll throw a hissy fit,say you're all bitches and flounce.

He wasn't some 'random'.He was from a company and there servicing your boiler. It's not as though he was passing by and decided he'd like to use your loo.

And again it's a loo! It's not there for decoration.

piprabbit · 14/10/2011 18:38

Boiler Repairman: "May I use your toilet?"
Op: "Not if you are going to pass solid matter"
BR: "Right, I'll be off then"

Hmm Really, does anybody seriously say no to requests to use the toilet? Assuming that the toilet is fully operational and the request isn't from a random stranger.

MrBloomsNursery · 14/10/2011 18:47

So do we all agree, that if a stranger knocked on your door and asked your Dad to use the toilet, and then sat in there for 10 mins plopping away, that would be wrong and you wouldn't be unreasonable to be pissed off and angry?

onepieceofcremeegg · 14/10/2011 18:50

I wouldn't let a stranger into the house MrBloom, so I agree that what your dad did (and the stranger) was wrong.

Different issue if the person is in the house for some other purpose. However fwiw I think someone actually there for some time (be that a tradesperson, workman/woman or builder or whatever) has more "right" to ask to use the loo than someone just popping in (Ocado man or meter reader for example)

Knackeredmother · 14/10/2011 18:51

I am in a and e with my very poorly son but laughing my head off at this. I think they may call psych in view of my inappropriate behavior!

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 18:52

You don't like them so you are calling people names and being aggressive

err really hecat ?

I think you'll find that statement is untrue

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piprabbit · 14/10/2011 18:53

YWNBU to be bemused and a bit disgusted MrBloom.

However I think that empathy and kindness towards a fellow human being who is scared they are about to have an accident in the street (I'm assuming that your "visitor" was suffering from a sudden and unstoppable urge to poo) would make it U to turn them away from your door (unless you were alone in the house - in which case I wouldn't ever let a stranger in for any reason).

halcyondays · 14/10/2011 18:58

Yabu, it's a toilet, that's what it's for. What are workmen supposed to do when they are out all day? What is the problem?

halcyondays · 14/10/2011 19:03

How do you know he didn't wash hands? Did you follow him in to check? It would be very odd if a stranger knocked on the door and asked for the loo, but if someone is at your house working, visiting or whatever, it is perfectly reasonable of them to want to use the toilet, no matter what the nature of their visit.

GeraldineAubergineZombieBalls · 14/10/2011 19:03

I just pooed on someone's coffee table. Now that's what I call unreasonable.