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AIBU to not want a workman to poo in my toilet?

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 14:00

Earlier today I was having my boiler serviced and two men came to do it.

The older man said 'can I use your toilet' , I said 'yes of course' and directed him to the bathroom. Thinking he just needed to pass water

But he had a poo in it! He was in there a good 10 minutes and has colleague was looking embarressed as we chatted.

It stank ! Really stank ...why do people think it's ok to poo in someone elses house

Would it be unreasonable to refuse workmen toilet access in future [hshock]

I'm using the term workmen because I don't know what else to call them

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 15:29

No Creamola you're a snob because it matters to you that he was a workman. don't be silly Andrew

I have learned from this thread that tradesman is the accepted term .

He still shat in my toilet which was rude and cheeky

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Salmotrutta · 14/10/2011 15:31

No it wasn't Creamola - if you didn't want him to poo you should have made that clear.

GeraldineAubergineZombieBalls · 14/10/2011 15:32

In the future you could offer any tradesmen in need of an urgent defecation some eggs and red meat, these are very binding foods. Don't whatever you do offer castor oil or liquorice to them as these can have the opposite effects. Hope that helps.

IslaValargeone · 14/10/2011 15:34

Rince mince..You gotta be shittin' me?

whiteoleander · 14/10/2011 15:36

It's unfortunate that the call of nature came during his short visit to your house. I can see if you have builders for a length of time you expect it, whereas if someone is popping in for a 30 min service it is unlucky for him to leave that in the loo. But he couldn't have been expected to do anything else in the circumstances could he?
We had a nickname for going for a poo for years, named after one particularly stinky tradesman. But he couldn't have been expected to go elsewhere really could he.

ZZZenAgain · 14/10/2011 15:36

I missed that bit about needing to rinse mince. How does this work? You rinse it in a sieve?

I never do this

GeraldineAubergineZombieBalls · 14/10/2011 15:37

If you rinse mince, surely you must also sterilise pork chops and bleach drumsticks, they have after all been kneeling in actual chicken excreta.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 15:37

Creamola - you say you do not shit in any one elses toilet, do you never go out of your own home, how do you cope on holiday ???

I spent a week a Ibiza with out pooing once. It wasn't my toilet ..I can't poo in a strange toilet and that is what upset me about a random man coming in and pooing in my toilet

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melika · 14/10/2011 15:39

OMG,everybody does it! When you gotta go, you gotta go. Imagine being told you could not open your bowels until you got home! Get a life!!!

IslaValargeone · 14/10/2011 15:39

Obviously that should say rinse.

Neverever · 14/10/2011 15:39

YABU it's really not good to "hold on" can lead to lots of bowel problems when you are older, I poo when I need to don't care whose toilet it is, if you need to go, go!

ZZZenAgain · 14/10/2011 15:40

I have to go back and find the post about rinsing mince. I need to know it now

Neverever · 14/10/2011 15:41

"he still shat in my toilet which is rude and cheeky" poor guy, think you need to get a grip!

Salmotrutta · 14/10/2011 15:42

I vaguely remember the rinse mince debate.
I don't. And I'm still alive.

ZZZenAgain · 14/10/2011 15:46

ok I went right through the threada nd there is nothing on it about rinsing mince.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 15:46

No it wasn't Creamola - if you didn't want him to poo you should have made that clear.

should i have said 'yes use my bathroom but don't have a jobby in there*

that would have been an ackward converstion ?

People should know to poo in someone elses house

I don't poo anywhere except my own bathroom

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worldgonemad72 · 14/10/2011 15:47

Not having a poo for a whole week cant be healthy, and he didn't just walk in and use your toilet, he was doing a job and asked if he could use it, why did you think he just wanted a wee? do people look different when then want a poo or just a wee?

have you installed a new toilet in every house you have lived in, before you moved in otherwise it means strangers have already used the toilet before you.
i still think yabu

coraltoes · 14/10/2011 15:49

Did you ask what he planned to do in there? You should have, if answer = poo solution = give him a freezer bag to dispose of it afterwards.

Tis reminds me of the time my mum sent me to school with a stool sample in a Tupperware...thankfully she found me before break to switch it for the lunch Tupperware.

LittlePickleHead · 14/10/2011 15:52

I'm actually surprised that some people think it's OK for the Ocado delivery man to crap in my loo! Perhaps I do need to get a grip, but surely they should work out toilet stops into their routes? Quite beyond the fact that I was a tad embarassed as the bathroom was a state having just bathed my daughter, I wasn't expecting to have a stranger in my house and I felt really uncomfortable about it. A shitty smell afterwards just topped it off.

Yes I know people have to suddenly go, but the thought of a stranger pooing in my toilet grosses me out.

Perhaps I am weird though?

RosemarysBassoon · 14/10/2011 15:53

[hgrin]

The poor bloke must have been screaming for a shit if he decided to do it when he knew you were stood chatting, waiting for him to get back.

coraltoes · 14/10/2011 15:55

Little pickle head my ocado man delivered 6 burst yoghurts, which created an unholy fucking mess of the bread and fruit. If he had shat in my house I may have just murdered him.

scattermummy · 14/10/2011 15:56

Here is one to make you laugh
Sadly ,I suffer from OCD.not really badly but one of my main traumas is using public loos. Door handles,flushes and taps make me panic,I have however learnt how to manage this.Using a bit of loo roll to open the door,turn tap on and off and exit facilities,my favourite trick so I don't have to touch doors is to rummage round in my bag until someone else opens it!!!
Touch free taps and soap dispensers are my saviour.When we had an extension done when I was pregnant the stress nearly finished me off.The builders would go to the loo,not wash their hands and then on one occasion went and made tea straight after getting the milk out the fridge.uuuugh,the poo germs on the bottle that my kids use.I eventually rang the boss and demanded a portal for them.
One day I was walking up the street after the school pick up.my oldest was in the front room as off that day.anyway,when I got to my door,it opened and 4 men came trooping out.accompanied by the neighbourhood do-gooder .
"hope you don't mind "she said,"yours was the nearest and also the nicest"
She had actually banged on the window and got dc1 to let them in and use the loo......
Furious ,aghast,shocked and horrified does not begin to describe it.
I do actually see the funny side as I know that my silly obsession is daft but it was my worst nightmare.

suzikettles · 14/10/2011 15:57

Genuine question: those of you who can't poo on any loo but your own, or who seem to have a morbid fear of poo, did something hideous and poo-related happen to you as a child? Or do your parents have the same fears and have passed them on?

It just seems all a bit extreme, and the holding on for hours or days is really unhealthy (probably far more unhealthy than the remote possibility of catching something from someone pooing on your loo)

IslaValargeone · 14/10/2011 15:57

I just don't think it's as simple as working out toilet stops on your route. I'm amazed that some people's bodies are so predictable. Do people not react to changes in food/routine? I have just moved house, been quite stressed and haven't shat for a week, there's no telling when the urge will strike.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 15:57

I just don't like people in my home , who I don't know, pooing in my bathroom.

The guy stank .......seriously stank , and I wouldn't be surprised if his wife told him 'you can't poo here, you're too smelly' and encouraged him to poo in other peoples houses whilst he was on the job

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