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AIBU to not want a workman to poo in my toilet?

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/10/2011 14:00

Earlier today I was having my boiler serviced and two men came to do it.

The older man said 'can I use your toilet' , I said 'yes of course' and directed him to the bathroom. Thinking he just needed to pass water

But he had a poo in it! He was in there a good 10 minutes and has colleague was looking embarressed as we chatted.

It stank ! Really stank ...why do people think it's ok to poo in someone elses house

Would it be unreasonable to refuse workmen toilet access in future [hshock]

I'm using the term workmen because I don't know what else to call them

OP posts:
Salmotrutta · 15/10/2011 14:16

Amazed that this is still going!

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 15/10/2011 14:25

exotic how have you turned this into a RACE issue? Confused wtf has how black people were treated in the past igot to do with this?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/10/2011 14:30

"If someone like a workman shat in my toilet I wouldn't be happy" - do you really mean to sound so snobby and condescending, MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll? It sounds like you think working class poo is going to contaminate your loo, whereas if it was someone you approved of, it would be better (though lesley would have to use a potty - I assume this is a joke).

Tbh, if I have workmen in my house, I look after them properly, on the assumption that happy workmen do their best work. On the flip side, I don't think I'd be terribly happy about someone working on my gas boiler whilst distracted by the desperate need for a poo - I'd rather his mind was on the job not the jobby!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/10/2011 14:32

MABRD - this is not being turned into a race issue - but a comparison is being drawn between the way some people treat/view workmen working in their house with the way black servants used to be treated - seperate loos etc.

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 15/10/2011 14:43

It's not because they're workman ffs! I would object to the president of the USA shitting in my loo! I would say "Obama NO!" and the same with Prince Charles, Hugh Grant....you name it....age, race, class...NO SHITTING IN MY LOO!

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 15/10/2011 14:44

And really....you CANNOT compare the way that African Americans were treated in those days to some sniffy woman objecting to the bricky doing a log in the ensuite.

ilovesprouts · 15/10/2011 14:45

some of thease pasts make me lmao classic :O

ilovesprouts · 15/10/2011 14:45

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helpmabob · 15/10/2011 14:46

Bullybeef were you really brought up not to poo in other people's toilets? That is appalling. I can't imagine telling my children "no you can't do a poo here, you must hold it in and wait till we get home. Really quite shocked. I don't think children should hold on unless there is absolutely no choice. IME it leads to constipation

MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll · 15/10/2011 14:49

Never poo in a strangers loo
Never pump or even think of a dump
Unless you're related or a very good mate,
Clench your buttocks and wait, wait, wait!

I was taught that rhyme as a child and I live by it.

lesley33 · 15/10/2011 14:52

I think thats really really strange. And tbh I wonder at your diet.

I find when I don't eat such a healthy adult e.g. on holiday, my poos are larger and harder and it is easier to hold on. But if you are eating a healthy diet your poos should be smaller and softer and ime much harder to hold on.

Andrewofgg · 15/10/2011 14:52

I am a lady, a lady NEVER poos

Indeed. And horses sweat, men perspire, ladies glow :)

The longer this goes on, the funnier it gets, and the sillier the OP sounds.

IloveJudgeJudy · 15/10/2011 14:56

Spuddy Sad for your dad. It seems almost unbelievable, but having read what some others - OP, mrBloom and mumbling have written, - I can readily believe it. As I wrote further up the thread, I am not like DS and DH, who go regularly at the same time every day and sometimes twice a day Envy and I have to go when I feel the urge otherwise the urge won't come back for a few days and that makes me really uncomfortable.

I have worked in places where colleagues have made remarks about the toilet smelling as people have done a poo in there. I didn't understand it then and I don't now. Surely that's what toilets are for!

lesley33 · 15/10/2011 14:58

I haven't said so much about poo since my kids were very young!

Andrewofgg · 15/10/2011 14:59

My MIL always wants nobody to have a crap for about an hour before she might want to - in our own homes, damn it - "in case there is a smell".

BullyBeefBadgers · 15/10/2011 15:34

helpma obviously if I needed to I would be allowed to go in someone elses toilet but I've always just gone in the morning as part of a routine and not needed to the rest of the time - I guess thats what I mean - my mum always told me to make it a regular part of the morning instead of leaving the house without going and needing to go while out etc. It wasn't that she told me not to go in other places more that she expected me to go in the morning like clockwork as going while out was not always practical.

TiggyD · 15/10/2011 15:41

If you're out and need the loo
I'll tell you all what you must do.
Just 'suck' it up and squeeze your cheeks
to keep it in for several weeks.
Waddle about like a tight arsed duck.
No touching cloth as that's just yuk.
then when you reach YOUR loo and sit
You can just relax and do your shit.

KreepyInMind · 15/10/2011 15:43

Tell them to go to Paul's to have a poo, he has a flash air freshener Grin

lesley33 · 15/10/2011 15:47

From what I have read, in many public schools in the past, young children were expected to poo at a certain time every morning. From reading autobiographies, some managed this fine, others didn't - leading to often huge anxiety issues and often large doses of syrup of figs!

In a sense you were "lucky" that you were able to meet this routine - many can't.

I think it is like the old injunctions about only feeding babies every 4 hours. Some babies were fine with this and managed fine. Others screamed hugely in hunger as their body functions just didn't fit with this routine.

The routine of having a poo in the morning this way actually comes from victorian times along with the idea that it was "healthy" to poo every day as part of your morning routine. We now know this is absolute nonsense.

TiggyD · 15/10/2011 15:52

For some poo music
www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PycvJqUyEs

helpmabob · 15/10/2011 15:59

Actually Lesley I don't know why any of us are trying to reason with these posts. It is the most bizarre, rudest and inhumane attitude I have come across in a very long time. To deny someone the use of toilet facilities is just wrong - end of. I find it absolutely disgusting, far more revolting than the stench of human waste, this attitude represents the stench of human nature.

HRHThequeenofflippingEngland · 15/10/2011 16:34

One doesn't like to moan, and one appreciates that hijacking another's thread with one's own problems is a trifle off, but one is currently experiencing a similar problem as the 'opening poster's' and wonders if the wise women of mumsnet can help. One has heard that it is a super-douper resource for all things.
Anyway, one tends to hold a lot of parties and events in one's line of work (though one must be discreet about such things).
At one such event, a lady asked to use my lavatory. One has literally hundreds of the things at home and does not mind as such but the dreadful stench of shite that emanated from one such lav after aforementioned user has led me to question my policy regarding the matter.
I do not care to mention the lady by name, but she left behind an absolutely massive turd containing what looked like undigested organic rice and a clothes tag with the name 'Boden' (?) written on it.

One does not like to complain, but my little corgi babies simply could not use the facilities for days afterwards.

Is one being unreasonable to force the plebs one's loyal subjects to shit in the palace grounds (I mean, if it's good enough for Phillip)?

LostInTheWoods · 15/10/2011 16:48

I'm just grateful, after years in the construction industry that the law (yes the law - it sort of trumps people with toileting issues) disagrees with the mad, toilet possesives on this thread.

If you disagree, I suggest you petition your MP on the matter. Otherwise, you are and always will be wrong.

exoticfruits · 15/10/2011 16:59

How have I turned it into a race issue? Confused
Does it matter what colour of skin the workman had?
OP doesn't want the workman to use her toilet. The women in the book didn't want workmen to use their toilet. (or work women). The colour of the skin is irrelevant.
If someone is doing work on your house they will need to use the toilet and yours is likely to be the only one around.

Sleepglorioussleep · 15/10/2011 17:33

So...my dad has had lifetime probs with the loo. He was brought up to go first thing in the morning. And it takes him long enough to complete the telegraph cryptic crossword. I don't wish this for my children so I think we'll skip enforced loo routines.