to NOT want a short 'mum'-cut, but the hair-pulling is DRIVING ME MAD!

[libbyssister]

DS3 is 14mo and has been a hair puller from quite a young age. He does it for comfort whenever he sits on my lap and is pulling it out by the roots. To make things worse, my hair has only recently stopped falling out after my post-pregnancy moult. If I tie it back he just pulls the fine, shorter hairs on my neck. It hurts!

Is there any other solution other than taking myself off to the hairdressers and getting that short hair cut that mothers of small children consider in desperation?

I don't really mind it as a habit, but it's far more annoying when (like now) my hair needs cut and is all split-endy and knotted at the bottom. If it's freshly cut his fingers just glide through it and it's fine! Must get it cut.

You have to tell him no, and be consistent. I managed this with my eldest who was a hair puller, but I failed with my youngest who was a nipple twizzler!! (Feeding on one, twizzling the other, tbh whilst he was being BF I didn't really notice, sore is as sore does!)

My youngest is 3 now (4 soon) and still ocassionally slides his hand down my top for comfort - this gets a NOARGH!! - but he also slides into bed at night when I'm fast asleep and I wake to find my nipples being twizzled - its not pleasant at all, its happening less and less but I wish I'd been firmer when he was younger. Sort it out whilst they're young!!! Until I can stop my youngest doing this altogether my breasts are firmly non-sexual, and I miss them.

Do people really not say "no" to 14 month olds??? My poor DDs...

can you post a link to the 'mum cut', I don't know what this is. I have shortish hair and am concerned that the link will be a photo of me. eek.

DP had to pry him off my hair earlier

I used to have much longer hair when ds was tiny. If he grabbed my hair and 'No!' didn't work I would hold his wrist so he couldn't pull my hair harder. NOT tightly but so he couldn't yank it. Once he realised he couldn't pull it from that position, he let go. Didn't take long for him to stop even trying.

Yes tothemoonandback I'm also not sure what the 'mum cut' is! I know lots of mums with very cool short hair, people who aren't mums with really ugly short hair, mums with long hair that looks rubbish etc....

I would gently hold his hand when he reaches up-he may well cry but really its better in the long run if he is hurting you .
Mine did the skinrolling/pinchy thing when BF and I would intercept the hand before it got there
It hurts - better to get a velvety soft toy or a blanky for comfort rather than allow it to continue .