To think since he does the pick up every single fucking thursday

[fluffythevampirestabber]

then he should know what time it is?

(And disclaimer even if you all tell me IABU I'm going to say I'm not so you can all fuck the fuck off before you even start your YABU okay?? )

ExH picks DD2 up every Thursday since I have uni classes til 5.15 and it takes me til 6.30 to get to his to pick her up. He also gives her her tea, isn't he fantastic and father of the fucking year?

Anyway, I digress, every single fucking Thursday morning since uni went back (this is the 4th week) I get a text "What time is DD2 pick up today?"

Usually I tell him (since I have a fucking calendar and write down who does what when and I am interested in my kids and ask them about their days).

Today I replied "I have no idea. You do Thursday pick up. When do you usually get her?"

And he replied "Isn't it 4 like every other week?"

Me "How would I know? Thursday pick ups are your responsibility. Suggest you phone the school"

So, AIBU? And didn't I do well not to tell him to fuck off and get organised?

Oops, forgot to say YANBU

nothing wrong with being angry or bitter when it's justified minimisschief

Minimisschief - on another thread, the OP's ex made a big deal of how he should go to their dd1's Parents Evening, because he 'would be better able (than the OP) to ask questions. He also signs all his personal emails to her, about their dds, with all his qualifications and his job title. This is just the tip of the iceberg of his knobbery.

Oooops - pressed post too soon. What I meant to say is that a man who has made such a big deal of how well qualified, intelligent and incisive he is, should be able to remember what time to pick his dd up.

SDTG- all of that, plus he is so important and god-like that he is above having to concern himself with such trivial things as when to pick her up and as his minion and inferior to him I should realise that it is my duty to remember when he has to do these things and tell him so that he does not have to concern his mind with such matters.

Also, it sews a seed of doubt in my mind, will he remember to pick her up and therefore keeps control of me in that he knows I'll be worrying if he will have got her on time.

YANBU and you did extremely well.

I feel your pain though. Your ex sounds very similar to mine. Most of the time I try to ignore his twattery but every so often I am gripped by the urge to scream with frustration.

Remarkably restrained OP.

YANBU at all.

This is how men people abdicate responsibility for household tasks.

You need the words "I am not your PA"

Repeat at will.

oops, bolding didn't work there did it!

Well I could suggest that exP was simply double checking the time hadn't changed for today (no e.g last minute cancellation of Art Club). But I see that that would be an unwelcome opinion so I will not suggest it

I have been waiting for the opportunity to be the first to say 'leave the bastard' on a thread but someone is always there before me. Thought this might be my chance until I read the thread - clearly OP has already left the bastard (or booted him out as the case may be). By the way YANBU. Oh and have a , it's a bit early for .

You do realise he's going to ask if you have PMT don't you

OK... the update... just in the door, having picked her up.

First off, he didn't have the shoes and joggers ready.

She's not done her homework

And ....

She has had no tea. She's eaten melon

I work with my DH and sometimes I forward him technical emails and he then asks me what they say!!! WTF? Can't he just read the pigging email like I did? And I have bad memory retention so you would think after 20 years he would have stopped asking me anyway. I am so sure he does it to wind me up...... hmmm

FFS
Text him to go get them if he doesn't want his dd to go to school nekkid, and pick up a takeaway while he's at it as she's hungry

Oh I stood on the step and said "I'll wait" and waited ... and waited... and waited as he faffed about getting them.

Then she came out without her jumper. Or her bag.

So I waited a bit more

Just fed her some pizza bad mother alert but I am tired it's been a long day.

hey hey good.
Pizza good
pizza in pj's even better when tired {grin}

He sounds like a tosser! YADNBU

And I agree, 'grips my shit' is possibly the best thing I have heard in a long time

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his latest piece of fuckwittery

"the tip of the iceberg of his knobbery" is my favourite phrase

Fluffy in a strange 'in sync' thingy my ex did exactly the same thing today.
Cue me panicking that he couldn't have them and then being made to feel grateful that he did. Never mind he's been picking up since beginning September before I went back to Uni.

Ranty rant rant.

Sorry as you were. YANBU!

MissMogwi - It's awful that feeling isn't it, the panic.

Ranty rant rant

But my ex did better

I have started a thread. In chat.

Oh the link is up there (thicko me)

You are doing the right thing Fluffy - let him sort out his own life! Maybe take a magazine next time to keep you entertained whilst you wait for74 hours whilst he sorts his shit out. YABU

Today I replied "I have no idea. You do Thursday pick up. When do you usually get her?"

And he replied "Isn't it 4 like every other week?"

Me "How would I know? Thursday pick ups are your responsibility. Suggest you phone the school"

I love it...its fab and the most useful way I have seen of dealing with this type of situation for the past year at least

flipping well done

Yeah Confuseddd and as I said to a friend today, if I continue to pick up after him, remind him of stuff and so on, then as someone else up the thread said, I'm still organising his life and it's like we're still married in a way.