to be annoyed with DHs coming home demeanour?

[sleepingsowell]

You know how something needles you and then all of a sudden you realise exactly what it is and why you've got this background annoyance?
I hae JUST realised that DH really pisses me off when he comes in from work. He never comes in with a smile or a jolly "helllloooooooo!" It's always a long face and '"DS just let me get in the door will you?"
etc etc etc blah blah
We BOTH work full time, and I don't do this no matter what kind of crappy day I might have had. I come in with a warm smile and just get on with what DS has to show me/talk to me about.
oh, and I don't want to give too much detail but my job (taking a really objective view) is more stressful and responsible than his. So that's no excuse, if anyone was going there...........

My EX used to do this.

The whole crap day at work thing is understandable to a degree, but shouldnt that mean you should be looking forward to getting home to relax and be with your loved ones?

Not for him it didnt, he would come in with a face as long as a horses.

I would be looking forward to seeing him and realised he didnt feel the same or else he would manage a smile surely?

I dont miss that feeling at all

DP always has a smile on his face when he sees me

I had this problem with my DH - I'd be in a good mood, then he'd come home grumpy, everything was wrong, and it would put me in a bad mood too and we'd both end up miserable.

With my DH, the problem was that he gets grouchy when he's hungry. So, I've ordered him to eat a snack mid-afternoon and we're both much happier! Could it be hunger?

I get it in he morning too, lots of huffing and puffing and sighing

Well I guess that's how both DH and I are from time to time. But DH much more than me. Although I usually manage to be civil to the kids and the dog . It is hard when you're knackered and you know that as soon as you get in the door, instead of a restorative drink and nice sit down, you'll be hassled by kids and have a list of chores to do. But it's part of your job as a member of a family to contribute to the happiness of the house rather than subtract from it.

DH is, in general, a mardy arse. But it's his loss - the kids rarely go and give him spontaneous hugs or ask how his day has been.

My dp is the same, in fact we had an almight fall out about this only last weekend!
Granted it was a rather childish approach but I said that if he was going to be mardy then so was I, it was quite cathartic being able to strop around all weekend like a teenager! Funnily enough he's been sweetness and light since

I can understand being tired/stressed etc when you get in, after a long day at work and a horrible commute. But how difficult is it to smile and give your DP a hug and a kiss?

Having the dog has helped me a lot actually, he's always so happy to see me! I can't be miserable when I see his happy face and wagging tail as I come through the door :)

Dh is the chirpyist chap. Sometimes it drives me mad. But can be a compete miser when he comes throught he door. Phones me as leaving work, all cheery. But the commute is crap, driving. Opens the door,and the two boys RUN from the lounge "Daaaaaaadddddy". let me in, let me in, he says. Give the guy a break, he needs to sit down for 5 minutes, I think to myself. "Don't climb on me boys, just give me some sapce, we'll have cuddles in a minute" he says. "Cup of tea" I say. =solution to all problems.