Years ago ..Just found out that ex friend is telling people I tried to get her youngest son taken into care . I'm so angry , please calm me down before I go do something stupid.
What is worse she has posted her lies on Facebook.
Bit of background....her daughter was in care for years after being abused by a boyfriend . Her oldest sons father had custody ,and now he's 16 and is recently living with his mum. Youngest son is 11 , and was 3 when the nursery reported her for neglect. He was taken into care and ex friend was told to clean her house and buy I'm bedding & clothes before she got him back. I helped her do so , I gave her laminate flooring for his room and curtains and bedsheets and helped her redecorate her flat. I even went with her to lawyers and social work meetings to support her.
I did so because she had blood clot and was Ill I did not think it was fair , her house was dirty but she coudnt clean it if she had to rest could she ?
Eventually she got her boy back and things were ok .
Then her 15 yr old dd came to my house ,and told me her mum had beaten her up and had been hitting her all along . She broke down and told me she was going to run away or go to social work and put herself in care.
At that point I told friends dd she could stay at mine until it calmed down. My first thought was no , MY friend would never hit her dd , and that it's probably been an argument that teen girls and their,mums always have...normal stuff that would blow over in a few days. It was better the dd stayed where her mum would know she was safe and looked after.
All he'll broke loose , my friend was very aggressive and nasty and told me she would kick seven bells out of her dd she got home.She was punching my front door . The dd refused to go home and stayed a few weeks until she was 16 , she got a job and started to look for her own house. I never took money from her or claimed any benefits for the girl . Her mum still had Monday book ect for her (was 2003).The girl went to visit her uncle and family and decided to stay with them, it was the best thing for her .
I still wasn't talking to my ex friend two years later . She had moved in another bloke and when my son and stepson were out playing with her son ....now about 6yrs ,and 10yrs old , this bloke started chasing my boys with a spade shouting he was going to chop dsd's head off with the spade .
Rightly so I went to see her , I told her what her dp had done and she laughed. I told her to watch her bloke near her son. Within 18 mths they had split because her dp had been hitting her ds.
I phoned the police about her bloke threatening my dad, they went round and gave him warning, they couldnt arrest him because she said he was with her and didn't do it.
Now she is saying I tried to get her son taken into care , and is using that incident as proof . Telling everyone I sent the police to take her boy into care.
Her oldest on has just told my oldest dd this , and she's put it on Facebook.
I'm furious that there is very little can do about this...I can't prove I didn't report her to social work anymore than she can prove I did , but people are listening to her . I suppose she's saying this because she must have been asked why we fell out , and she's not likely to say it's because she was hitting her daughter is she ?
Aibu to be so very angry ? , all I ever did was to try and help her.