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WIBU to write a 'thankyou' note to a GP?

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CoffeeDog · 07/10/2011 14:35

DH thinks it not the 'done thing and that i should just leave it.

I went on and of the the GP with my son for 18mths before i went in one day and burst in to tears in front of a very bemused locam... after he sat me down and actually listened to me he sent me and my boy up to A&E with a letter stating in big bold letter 'this is not a neurotic mother' please test and refer.... they did DS will be having surgery which will improve his life as he gets older and take away his pain ;)

I dont even remember the name of the GP but i presume my local doctors will have it on file/ and addresas they can forward it. I just want him to know how gratefull we are that he helped us.

DH just says its his job. and that he wont rember/care so WIBU just to write a note to say thankyou?

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/10/2011 14:36

not at all U in my opinion :)

aldiwhore · 07/10/2011 14:37

YANBU. There's nothing wrong with saying thank you and I'm pretty sure that GP's don't get thanked enough. x

MrsCarriePooter · 07/10/2011 14:37

You definitely ANBU - that's a lovely thing to do. There are many things I do because it's my job but it's still nice when someone says thank you, and the locum won't know the end of the story.

nomoregandtforme · 07/10/2011 14:38

Please write the letter! I'm sure he would love to know he was appreciated.

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/10/2011 14:39

I'm sure he would love it.

WhereTheWildThingsWere · 07/10/2011 14:39

No. I think that's a lovely thing to do and would be very appreciated.

I left a thank you card for the midwife who delivered dd as she was just wonderful.

ChaoticAngelofSamhain · 07/10/2011 14:45

YANBU That is a lovely thing to do. I'm sure the locum will appreciate it :)

IgnoringTheChildren · 07/10/2011 14:45

Definitely do it - I bet that the locum does remember you and even if he doesn't he'll be happy to hear that he made the right call and helped your son. :)

Also it will be useful for your GPs surgery to read it too - a gentle reminder that they obviously didn't investigate your son's problem as well as they should have done!

belledechocchipcookie · 07/10/2011 14:47

Not at all unreasonable, it's not often medics are thanked for doing their job well. I bet he'll be very happy to hear that your son's ok also.

Pentagram · 07/10/2011 14:48

I wrote a thankyou letter to DS1's speech therapist when he appeared in a local play with lines and everything (birth trauma induced stammer and very late speaking). She phoned me back in tears

NorfolkBroad · 07/10/2011 14:57

You should do. I think everyone appreciates being thanked like this. It will also make the Dr feel even more confident in his caring approach in the future. Good luck to you and your son by the way. Hope the surgery goes well.

Sirzy · 07/10/2011 14:59

Do it. People are quick to complain but rarely say thank you. After ds had first been in hopsital I wrote a card to thank the ward and a letter to the chief executive praising the staff

Ephiny · 07/10/2011 15:01

It would be unusual, I think, but a nice thing to do, and would make a change from complaints!

spiderlight · 07/10/2011 15:03

I would, and have done!

mybabywakesupsinging · 07/10/2011 15:03

Do it.
You will do him a small favour as doctors have to keep that sort of thing for re-validation purposes.
You will also make him very happy.

EllaDee · 07/10/2011 15:03

Aww, I think it would be lovely!

My mate's dad is a doctor (not a GP though), and he has had thank-you notes and even presents from patients (you're not allowed to accept the presents!). He really appreciates it and has said how it is often hard to know, as a medic, if you said the right thing or not, because you mostly hear about it when you didn't!

AKMD · 07/10/2011 15:04

YANBU, do it. This was exceptional care and he should feel good about it.

CailinDana · 07/10/2011 15:07

Definitely do it. It's a fantastic to feel your work is appreciated and the effort you put in is recognised. I'm sure he'll be delighted to get it. CC a copy to the surgery just in case he's looking for a permanent post and needs something to recommend him :)

CroissantNeuf · 07/10/2011 15:11

I think it would be a lovely thing to do.

Its reminded me that I meant to do this a while ago but forgot.

In my case it was also a locum doctor at our surgery (maybe locums have less pressure re: time, budget etc??). He was a very young male doctor who was just so brilliant and went out of his way to do an urgent bloodtest on DS. He did the test during his break time so the bloods would go to the hospital lab that day rather than having to wait until the next day. He also phoned me back that day with the (thankfully good) results earlier than he'd said as he'd chased up the results rather than waiting for them to be sent to him. It meant a lot.

BillComptonstrousers · 07/10/2011 15:11

I had awful PND about six years ago, and I felt that my doctor (another lady, same age as me) went above and beyond her job to make sure I was really looked after.

When I left hospital I took her a card with a small bag of presents (small bottle of wine, chocs, nice candle and nice bath stuff ) and it was very much appreciated.

I get a few presents from patients myself, and I think it's lovely that they have actually gone out and thought 'xxx has done something nice for me and I would like to get them a gift'

nickelbabe · 07/10/2011 15:12

definitely do it.

people are normally very quick to complain but never to rpaise.

it's a brilliant thing to do.

when my dad was being passed from pillar-to-post after his stroke, the doctor in the eye hospital kept on at the A&E people to say my dad had had a stroke and it wasn't his eyes, and my mum and dad went out of their way to thank him.
it's more than just "their job", it's their vocation, too, and why shouldn't they be praised for something that has made such a huge difference to a life? that's why they're in it, aren't they? to save lives.

BillComptonstrousers · 07/10/2011 15:12

oh, and he will remember, and he will care!

Pakdooik · 07/10/2011 15:22

Good for you - do it

Shutupanddrive · 07/10/2011 15:24

Definitely do it, I bet they don't get thanked enough

pippilongsmurfing · 07/10/2011 15:25

I have written a thankyou card to a particular GP before. I had been ill for 2 years and she was the only one that actually listened to me, and as such ended up finding out what was wrong, getting on some meds and fixing a problem that other GPs had allowed to continue unneccesarily for 2 years.

I think the doctor will appreciate it as well, I bet they get loads of people moaning at them, so it'd be nice to know they are appreciated iykwim?

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