My friend is having a big birthday party soon, about 200 miles away. She called earlier to check we're still going (yes) and wanted to make sure I was OK with the kids not being able to come. Er, no I'm not. They've been to most events before, and I had already been told they could. They've changed the plans, which is fine, but I said I now can't go.
Youngest DD is nearly 4 months and EBF. I could leave her with DH and a few bottles, but I don't want to, so I've said I'd rather not. I said DH could go alone, she wants me (both friends with her and her DH). Now she's cross with me. AIBU?