People doing u-turns on their ideas/morals once they've had children.

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I used to work with a woman that was setting up a new department and made it very clear that there would be no part-timers on her team. A year or so down the line, she had a baby and guess what, she went part-time. She then had the cheek to moan that she hadn't progressed in her career having gone part-time!

Okay, I'll rephrase: why do people express their opinions about hypothetical events so firmly years in advance, to everyone they know?

It just makes them look like prats!

What do you mean, my posts are ironic to read? I see no irony!

I change my morals/ ideas daily with every battle I lose with DS.

Well, I suppose I had the advantage of having already tested my limitations regarding curious incidents at 4am, so I already knew I could cope. That's an unfair comparison for me to draw.

Regarding everything else though: there are libraries. The OP's boss should have visited one and borrowed a few books!

Myself and my cousins who all have DC's under 7yo (youngest 2yo) had this conversation at the weekend.

My DS is 7yo and my Dsis has spent most of his life telling me what I should and shouldn't do with him re disapline, eating etc etc it's a long list!.

She is expecting her PFB in 3 1/2 weeks so we are all hearing about what she will and won't do. I just smile and say 'neither was I!'. She is adament she won't change her mind, EVER.

I can't wait for the next 5 years, I will knowingly a lot.

BTW this is the same woman who gave my cousins DD(2) more cake when she had been told no (by my cousin)- because it 'was just a really small bit'. One of her ideas/ morals is sticking to 'no' and not allowing overeating of crap food.

Part time might suit some jobs, but if you want to progress, it often doesn't. E.g. - can full time employees really satisfyingly be managed by part timers? What if there's a problem with an account/client/contract whatever you're dealing with in your particular role on your day off?

Can every role really be done in a job share without creating problems/being more costly/adding less value?

I can fully understand why someone wouldn't want part timers in their department. And I can also understand that the same person would decide to go part time and mourn the loss of career progression. Yes, it's a choice you make, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt somehow to give one thing up for another

I think the shocking thing is people's lack of foresight. Yes sometimes we don't know until we actually do these things for ourselves but some things are bloody obvious!

Precisely! WhoseGotMyEyebrows^ said it all much better than me.

Do you have children OP?

I reckon part timers actually do more work.
Last time I was part time, I worked solidly every minute I was at work-no facebooking, no gabbing on the phone, no lolling about in the lavs.
I never took a lunchbreak, ever.
Most full time workers I know spend only about 2/3 of their time working.
So there.

TheControversialJessie Thank you. I thought I was talking giberish!