to think this woman deserves some sort of certificate for magnificent overthinking?

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Dropped one to the Chaotics off at an activity tonight and crossed paths with another parent who I know from sight and from dropping off at this place.

She was paying as I was dropping off and her DC (about 6?) was nagging to pass the cash to the leader, and this woman would not let the child have the cash, and actually looked quite horrified at the thought.

As we both headed back to the cars, she started talking to me about the PassingOverOfCashIncident and, told me that she never allowed her DC to pass money to adults as it would make the adult feel humiliated to be paid, and therefore subservient (her word ) to a minor.

AIBU to think this is overthinking on a grand scale?

I thought you were going to say the woman wouln't let the child pay in case there were traces of cocaine on the notes and then the child licked her fingers.

unpa1d, I just mumbled something about never really thought about it, and that I thought any chance for DC to handle money was a good experience kind of blarney. I was just a bit wishy-washy.

My 3yr old loves to pay for stuff. Although I did have to explain to him yesterday that if he wanted a packet of crisps from the train trolley, the man would need a bit more than the imaginary money he was attempting to offer...

The woman is weird

i feel alittle embarrassed now, that i have never allow my 5 year old ds 'pay' any where.

great tip for my behavioural techniques i am doing ( it going into my book), if he stays by the trolley and helps me around the shop he can have 50p to buy some sweets.

YABU purely on the basis that you already have a halloween name, Chaos :o

That is bonkers. I like to make DS pay because half the time it's actually his money. Plus it might make him realise that some of the stuff he wants actually costs more than 1p

My DS pays all the time - he has his own money (birthdays/xmas/ pocket money etc). He isn't allowed doesn't need to spend mine because anything we buy is by debit card and is weekly shop, petrol etc.

YANBU I can't even work out how you'd come to the conclusion this woman had?

Oh no, the poor man in Clintons that I inadvertently offended by letting DD pay for her pen...

Thats bonkers. I let my children pay all the time as they like to do it. I'd never considered it as anything other than fun.

Bit bonkers.

I thought she had germ phobia when i read that.

Hmm when people say things like that i wonder if they are projecting.

Or maybe i'm overthinking too now

Meh, I just a trendsetter Cristina.

First of all, I agree YABU to already have your Hallowe'en name on. But you knew that.

Second of all, that woman is one sandwich short of a picnic.

I'd actually go completely in the opposite direction to her and say that I'd think that they feel fantastic for sharing in the responsibility of helping the child to develop life skills like handing over money, helping to count it out and getting the correct change back, being polite and nice to people you meet when out and about, treating the kids as being grown up enough to pay and help their parents with the shopping etc.

also that to not let a child do something like this is to have serious trust issues with the child, holding them back and not letting them develop all sorts of useful skills as outlined above which might then have repercussions as the child gets older. At what age would she let her child pay do you reckon - once it had it's 18th birthday?

And as for her thinking that by handing your money over to the cashier makes them subservient to you - whole horrible different levels of bonkersness. truly bizarre.

Bonkers.

Hopefully she'll twig soon, when in maths they start learning about change - I vaguely remember it being recommended the kids should pay for small items to practice. Might even have been 'homework'.

Whilst she was busy overthinking, she might have remembered that in the UK, people pay other people for goods/services. Nothing to do with subservience!

The accountant might pay the gardener to do the gardening.
The gardener might pay the accountant to to his accounts.

No subservience involved!

I really like the phrase 'magnificent overthinking'.