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To return unwanted dolly given to DD?

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HollyFP · 04/10/2011 14:44

DD received a late birthday present recently from family friends, their 7yo DD chose it (she told me this). I do appreciate the gift and the thought but I just don't like what it is: a 'baby stella' dolly thing.
Not my cup of tea at all and my DD doesn't show signs of wanting to play with dollies yet.

They included a gift receipt with the package so I presume they are giving me the option to return it anyway if I want...I guess I feel bad cos it was chosen by their sweet DD who has taken a shine to mine, it feels a bit ungrateful.

Tbh they wouldn't know either way if we kept it or returned it unless they specifically asked. And who does that?! Grin

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stealthsquiggle · 04/10/2011 16:29

I would be more inclined to return it if it had been chosen by the adults, TBH.

It had never occurred to me to get DD dolls because I am not into them, but friends bought her one for her Christmas when she was about the same age as your DD, OP, and the way her little eyes lit up was incredible.

She still doesn't play with them lots, but she does love the few she has - I would hold onto it IIWY just because it was such a sweet gesture.

girlywhirly · 04/10/2011 16:43

You can get a boy version, Baby Sam.

I would hang onto it and see how DD responds in a few months.

MissPenteuth · 04/10/2011 17:09

OP, I've put a photo on my profile of DD having a tea party with her toys, with Baby Stella in attendance :)

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HollyFP · 04/10/2011 17:25

galaxy I feel exactly the same, they creep me out but I know now I have to put up with them for DD's sake.

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KittyFane · 04/10/2011 17:30

I know you said you will but I'd keep it.
You have said that it's not 'your' thing quite a few times and that's the part that I think is a bit Hmm.
There are some really distasteful toys around but this isn't one of them IMO. It's just a bit naff. Your DD may love it, she may not - let her decide.

Ghoulwithadragontattoo · 04/10/2011 17:46

Miss P - lovely photo. Glad Baby Stella got a reprieve!

Firawla · 04/10/2011 17:55

i googled it and i think it looks nicer than most dolls, they are quite cute! but anyway just keep it your dd will probably play with it soon and dont have to buy her any more dolls if you are not that keen on them.

SnakeOnCrack · 04/10/2011 17:59

Ah it's a sweet doll! I'd keep it myself, she'll probably love it before too long. Very sweet of the little girl to pick it out too.

MrsBloomingTroll · 04/10/2011 18:23

I loved my rag doll when I was little. Baby Stella looks like a nice doll unlike the piece of crap plastic doll my friend gave my DD, wish I'd been given the gift receipt for that one.

Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 04/10/2011 19:50

Just googled baby Sam doll aawww so cute. That is what DS2 is getting for Christmas I think Grin especially as it is his namesake as well.

pigletmania · 04/10/2011 20:17

Haven't read all the thread, but just to answer your op, YABVU, you receive the gift in the good faith that it was given. The dolly is not meant to be for you, so what if its not your cup of tea and you don't like it Hmm. It was chosen by a child who thought your dd would like it, she might later on so keep it for her for later.

madmomma · 04/10/2011 20:19

I'd keep it but maybe I'm soft. I just don't think it's worth the risk of hurting someone's feelings.

ballstoit · 04/10/2011 20:30

Keep the dolly, it will not be very long before DD will be role playing away, making you cringe as she perfectly mimics the phrases you didnt know you say so much Blush.

Lose the dummy though, it is grim.

melpomene · 04/10/2011 20:30

I gave dd1 a Baby Stella as a gift when dd2 was born, having chosen it as the least objectionable doll I could find. ( I find plastic baby dolls very creepy.) My dds have played with her quite a bit over the years and still do occasionally at age 8 and 6. So I'd say keep it, it's cuter than most baby dolls out there and your dd is likely to enjoy it.

Oh, and don't be put off by the dummy - dd1 used to pretend to breastfeed the doll sometimes, and give it the dummy at other times.

thisisyesterday · 04/10/2011 20:33

i can assure you the 7 year old will NOT just forget about it.

I would keep it too,. I quite like baby stella.

your daughter will love it when she is a bit bigger

AuntiePickleBottom · 04/10/2011 21:36

www.amazon.co.uk/Baby-Born-Wedding-Super-Deluxe/dp/B002DGK2U2

now this is what i call creepy

RhinestoneCowgirl · 04/10/2011 21:41

Just had a look and at least it's a soft cuddly doll. My DD is just coming up to 3 and hasn't played with dolls much yet, but we do have a couple in the house.

Tonight DS(5) was taking his 'baby' (his fave bedtime bear) for a walk around the house in the toy buggy. I was then asked to bf it Hmm

Popbiscuit · 04/10/2011 21:45

If my 7 year old had chosen a gift for a baby she would not forget about it. I can understand maybe contemplating returning it if you know it had been chosen by adults but something a little girl has chosen? YABVU.

CardyMow · 04/10/2011 22:16

The 7yo WILL remember having chosen this toy for your DD - and WILL look for it when she is next at yours (I have had a 7yo DD who chose a present for my cousin's DS, my DD is 13 now - and she STILL remembers being allowed to chose his present for him). I would just put it to one side, either your DD does not play with it, but it will still be there when your friend's DD is at yours again, or your DD will suddenly become so attached to this dolly that it will take surgical removal from her fingertips...

Thumbwitch · 05/10/2011 02:35

Completely agree that a 7yo will remember the dolly that she chose specially for your DD. And for a loooongg time. :)

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hophophippidtyhop · 05/10/2011 07:20

Corolle dolls are nice if and when you have to buy any more, they smell of vanilla too. Just don't buy one with hair untill your dd is old enough to brush it - I did and due to the negletful nature of a two year old, she looks like she's been through the hedge backwards unless I brush it! Have to add that although dd1 didn't take to dolls until 2yo, dd2 made a beeline for one at 1, and I had to buy her her own to avoid 'dolly wars'!

sunnydelight · 05/10/2011 08:04

Oh, we love Corolle dolls here!

Definitely keep it OP - DD got a baby Annabel for her 2nd birthday and still plays with it (she's nearly 9). If nothing else as everyone else has said the 7yo who chose it won't forget!