To think it's never too soon to teach cinema etiquette?

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Took the kids to kids-club type thing at the cinema where they show older movies (stuff like Kung Fu Panda 2, not REALLY old stuff) for £1 each (and £1 for parents making it a cheap outing even for larger families).

Now I fully expect this kinda thing to be FULL of kids (and rightly so! that's who it's aimed at!) but AIBU to think that even young kids should be taught not to shout and run around in the cinema, even if it was only a quid to get in?

I expect a bit more noise and movement but there was a family having a full on conversation half way through the film and they were not whispering! Two kids behind us who seemed to need the toilet EVERY 5 minutes (thus giving them an excuse to run around wild as soon as they were free from their seats), two siblings sitting in different rows to each other shouting to one another(!!) and a little girl arguining with her dad (loudly) about the amount of sweets he was stealing from her bag!!

As I said, I expect more noise and movement than usual and I know we didn't lose much money-wise but AIBU to think parent should still teach their kids that the cinema isn't a playground??

On the other hand, there was a tiny little girl (must have only been about 4) who never spoke a word throughout the entire film so it shows it is possible!

YANBU

I'm fed up of selfish idiots spoiling the cinema because they can't keep their kids under control.

Since you have turned this onto yourself Kladdkaka, do you actually try to explain to your child that she should not talk loudly through films? or do you just let her talk constantly?

Drip feeding info there Kladda.
The tread is about DC in general, your reply was to the OP about DC in general.
My question was to you, yes but as you had not stated that your DC was SN, how else would you have liked a reply?

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Agree Worra.

Weeeeell, technically, I think in the womb might be too soon. Or even perhaps at one year old.

Disclaimer: There is the slight possibility I might be being a tiny bit facetious here.

YANBU I can't believe how people behave at the cinema.

I rarely go anymore - the last time I went it was term time, during the day, and I had the whole place to myself. Best film ever.

But on the wholel I prefer to wait until it's out on VOD

Agree with Worra

I have two DC, one with mild sn, I expected both of them to sit and be quiet either at the cinema or McDonalds.

:o chaotic

I never took my severely autistic ds to the cinema, it would have been a total sensory overload for him which would have resulted in much tutting from others and he wouldn't have got much out of it tbh as he'd probably have had a meltdown at the noise. I wouldn't expect other people to just put up with it really, as they have as much right to enjoy the film.

There's a time and a place for running about, shrieking, and cinemas and restaurants (even McDs) are not the place.

Are you people deranged? I have turned anything into 'about me'. I answered a general question with a general answer. I think going to a £1 a ticket showing you know will be full of children and then moaning about them talking and wanting to go to the toilet is being unreasonable.

KittyFane then asked me a specific question about my child, which I answered, and SecretNutellaFix starts lecturing me on parenting an autistic child.

Hmm well I didnt take my DS before he was 4 because I didn't think he'd sit still.

Then I chose a film I thought would retain his attention and was a suitable length. Turned out to be Cars 2. Generally successful visit. Also took a slightly older boy who I knew had been tobthe cinema and would lead an example.

Worked like a charm with minor fidgeting about 15 minutes before the end.

I noticed that DC were talking throughout, but I also noticed that the sound was MUCH louder than usual to drown that out. Is that normal in kids films?

In summary, it's fun for all if the film:child suitability is right, otherwise give it a miss so others can enjoy their trip.

I've read the thread again and I disagree Kladda.
Your perspective is all about DC with SN.
This isn't a thread about DC with SN at the cinema.
It is a thread about rude, badly mannered DC spoiling films for others because they are rude and have bad manners.

It shouldn't matter how much the ticket costs

The fact is, people are there because they want to watch the film

Therefore no-one should be preventing that by allowing their children to distract others.

Manic :)

Too right about child/film suitability - some moron brought a 3 year old to see Transformers 3 when I took dp and dd. The poor child cried most of the way through as it was way too scary for him.

Never too young... or too old.

Getting up every 10 minutes for the loo, talking to each other in loud voices, asking questions about the plot... where I go, pensioners have the monopoly on this kind of behaviour!

What are you talking about, my perspective is not all about children SN, that didn't come up untill YOU brought it up. My perspective is that of a qualified teacher with nearly 30 years experience of children aged 5-12yrs, and your determination to segregate SN children from non-SN children is just a tad offensive.

I also find your assumption that parents of SN children are incapable of forming opinions and thinking beyond their child's condition, ignorant and patronising.

that didn't come up untill YOU brought it up.
No, Up until your post Kladdkaka Mon 03-Oct-11 18:06:48 nobody had mentioned SN.

No Kladda. You are wrong.

So you never asked me specifically about being in that situation with my child then?

Yanbu. Although I often find it's the parents who talk loudly to each other rather than the kids.

YANBU

This thread was not about children with SN. Nor is it all about you, Kladdkaka. So please stop this tiresome fucking irrelevant nonsense about discrimination which has now ruined a perfectly reasonable debate.

It may be that some children who behave loudly in the cinema have SN. Disregarding this (because actually, you can) there will still be a significant number of NT children who ill-mannered and out of control. Something that can be laid at the door of whoever takes them to the cinema and fails to try and teach the basics of etiquette in there.

So YANBU, OP.