AIBU to have a complete rethink my wedding?

[GruffalowsMammy]

Sorry another wedding AIBU.

We are due to get married next summer (church service followed by high tea), last week I started thinking do I want this sort of wedding (its has spiraled from 40 guests and is now 60 +, I wasn't going to wear a wedding dress, now I am and its a huge - which I do really like but never pictured wearing such a thing).

Originally I wanted to go abroad and DP wanted to keep to siblings their partners, parents and grandparents guest wise.

So AIBU to ditch the old wedding in favour of having a much smaller wedding abroad. I would only be losing 50 pounds if I cancel (deposit for church) as reception was at home and I was catering it, dress has been picked but not bought and no invites have been sent. However I have told everyone were getting married including asking the Mothers of 2 little girls if they could be bridesmaids (this is the bit I feel bad about, though the girls are 1 & nearly 2 so probably aren't to aware of it).

Do what will make YOU happy.....

I got engaged on christmas day...
told my mum at 11 AM by 4pm she had invited 80 people chosen a range of 'suitable' bridesmaid and their colours and had 2 dates set.. a week later she had provisional booked church and reception.

I wanted to get married bare foot on a beach somewhere... instead it snowballed into a huge white weding with over 200 guests and reception - I was glad when the day was over.

We did have a 3 week honeymoon in Kenya and had a blessing on the beach, our driver 'knew a man who would do it for £20 ;) to me that was more important than our actuall day.

Thanks everyone I am going to show DP this when he gets home.

I feel I should say my parents aren't the only ones to blame re the guest list, I keep looking at DP's list and say you have to invite him and her and you went to their wedding. I think I'm my own worst enemy or as DP puts it I get carried away and fixated with things.

My Dsis got out of having the aunts etc attend (it was very last minute) but she agreed to invite them after reassurances from parents they wouldn't be able to attend.

I would like it to be xmas (its the most wonderful time of the year, I know its not everyones cup of tea but I bloody love it) but have previously looked at a uk wedding in Feb which Bil could attend, though to be honest they live 5000 miles away and I think Bil might like the chance to hang out with my dsis telling him off :)

tyler Denmark (Copenhagen) because I just love it there, and DP is rather fond of the xmas beers and the interior design shops (as am I).

Bats shes a pretty mean 2 year old I think she might poke me with sharp crayons ;0

Shes not going to be bothered or remember is she? The only thing I remember about being a bridesmaid is being very bored at the dress fitting, the church and the reception I don't remember (I was 4)

Sounds heaven, OP. Have you given yourself enough time to get reservations at Noma? Nice candlelit wedding-eve supper for you & DH-to-be :)