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Original poster

To think no-one would write a nice obituary for me

32 replies

sanecatlady · 02/10/2011 23:57

I do realise this is daft and I am being U, but sometimes when I read a nice, thoughtful obituary about someone I wonder what would be written about me. I think it would not be as nice and there would be nothing noteworthy to say.

I haven't achieved anything interesting or worthwhile with my life so probably wouldn't have an obituary anyway. I have no idea why I think like this it's a bit pathetic really. I just wondered if I was alone in thinking this.

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snailoon · 02/10/2011 23:59

I don't think anyone would come to my funeral.

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:01

No, you are not alone.

"MM was a loving mother, daughter, granddaughter, friend... Oh. Is that it?"

Hmm. She was an animal rights fanatic aged 10.
Um...
She had nice hair.
Err...
She was ok, I s'pose.

TheTamingOfTheShrew · 03/10/2011 00:01

Me neither, does this make us nobdies?

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:04

You're nobdie 'til somedie loves you.

Has that been a Nobdie thread title yet?

BimboNo5 · 03/10/2011 00:08

I often think this. And also wonder how many people would turn up and be bothered at my funeral. Im a morbid feck.

yellowraincoat · 03/10/2011 00:08

But maybe you think those things and they're not true. When I think of any of my friends, I can think of a load of lovely things I could say about them.

Funny things we did together
Things they did to make me laugh
Kind things they did

Someone once told me to write an obituary for myself as I would like my life to have been. Could you try that? Maybe it'll throw up the things that you want to do in life. What would you WANT your obituary to say?

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 03/10/2011 00:09

i'll probably ave the vicar appealing in the paper for people to come to my funeral, it actually happens quite a lot round here, surprising how many people have no one.

Original poster
sanecatlady · 03/10/2011 00:12

Glad to see I'm not alone.

Ah yes, Mother..... She liked cats and was good at drinking wine......

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Salmotrutta · 03/10/2011 00:16

Considering the fact that, no matter how many people come to your funeral, you will be forgotten in about 4 generations, it doesn't really matter.
Unless you are so famous your name lives on through your work etc.
You will be forgotten anyway by the great-grandchildren or great-great-grandchildren so it's all relative.

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:19

That is one of the saddest things, Toastie... A funeral with no mourners.

Salmotrutta · 03/10/2011 00:22

I don't think I'll care if no-one turns up for my funeral ...

Original poster
sanecatlady · 03/10/2011 00:24

That is undeniably true, Salmotrutta Grin

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Cathycomehome · 03/10/2011 00:24

Hoping I'll be dead at mine, so won't give a shit.

Original poster
sanecatlady · 03/10/2011 00:26

I was referring to your first comment about being forgotten btw.

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MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:26
Grin
MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:28

"...She was average at Sudoku. Was incontinent upon solving a cryptic crossword."

Cathycomehome · 03/10/2011 00:30

Cathy was distinctly average at times, and sometimes more annoying than that. Frankly, it's a relief she's stopped being a responsibilty to us, but we are gutted that the inheritance was just debts.

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:30

"Her mother loved her"

"She was good at feeding her cat"

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:31

Grin Cathy

Dirtydishesmakemesad · 03/10/2011 00:32

In the funerals i have been to i cant think of a single person who had done anythign spectacular with theirs lives and yet all of them had full churches full of people remembering them and missing them.

I am hoping that since i have 5 children they will come to my funeral and weep and wail and discuss what a fabulous mother i was.

I have not really done much with my life so far (am 28) so unless i suddenly change direction they will mostly have to tell funny stories etc rather than ponder my lifes work at my funeral.

Cathycomehome · 03/10/2011 00:32

"She was willing to make toast at times".

"She occasionally helped out in the home"

" There were days upon which she moaned minmally".

TheBride · 03/10/2011 00:33

If you want a good turn out for your funeral, the key is to die young. I know that sounds flippant, but it's actually true. If you die past 80, many of your friends are either

  1. dead already
  2. Cant travel long distances
  3. Are just funeralled out

Also, your obituary tends to be boring as people have forgotten who you were by then. You're just another old lady [goes into depressive spiral]

Cathycomehome · 03/10/2011 00:36

Try to die both young and dramatically. I don't like heights and suffer from vertigo, so I'm planning to stand at the top of a tube escalator at 5 pm when I'm def dying anyway - that way, will prob hit the news Grin

MotherMucca · 03/10/2011 00:36

"She had fragrant farts"

How we miss them.

"Sometimes she laughed... Her sense of humour was infectious"

Tianc · 03/10/2011 00:37

Not so, salmotrutta.

Why, only tonight I was talking about my DP's great-great-grandfather's nephew's brother-in-law's wife, and her fight for damages after a head injury in a train crash (1861). 'Strue.