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Original poster

AIBU to think that if you're having a sleepover for 6-8 yos...

52 replies

AnnieLobeseder · 02/10/2011 20:26

... that you should, at the very least

  1. make sure they get into their pjs and clean their teeth and

  2. come home with their toothbrush, toothpaste, and most importantly, very favourite stuffed animal that they can't sleep without?

Grrrrrrrrr!!!!

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cat64 · 02/10/2011 20:47

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SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 02/10/2011 20:48

Ah - you are a mindreader!

Then DH needs to take some of the flack too!

Quintessentialist · 02/10/2011 20:48

I bet your dd will remember her favourite cuddly next time though!

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AnnieLobeseder · 02/10/2011 20:48

I was surprised when she got home still wearing the same clothes she had on yesterday, and when I asked her why she didn't put her clean clothes on this morning, she said she had slept in her clothes because her suitcase was downstairs and she couldn't get her pjs. And that she got up in the night to clean her tooth because she had forgotten earlier.

Which all made me quite sad.

Though I do have to wonder how she got her toothbrush and stuffed toys if her suitcase wasn't in the room with her. Hmm

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ZZZenAgain · 02/10/2011 20:49

that's a shame, I am sure Yaya will turn up. We're all, even as adults, easily distracted when other people are about and there is fun to be had, things to pack in a rush and when we are knackered because we clowned about all night and got hardly any sleep, we also probably wouldn't pack everything.

It is ok for a 6-8 year old to forget something. Hope she gets it back soon.

SexualHarrassmentPandaPop · 02/10/2011 20:53

Did your dd have a nice time OP? If she did then what's to be sad about? Sleeping in your clothes for one night won't harm her. I'm Shock that she has oral hygeine drummed into her so firmly that she got up to brush her teeth in the night but again it on't do any lasting damage.
I get the impression you're not a big fan of the host family Grin

FlubbaBubba · 02/10/2011 20:53

As an aside ~ I'm so Shock at the 6 yr olds moisturising !

My eldest is only just 4, so can't imagine her being super organised in two years' time, and would def. hope she got some help prodded and nagged until she did what she was supposed to :o

A1980 · 02/10/2011 21:55

God almighty, when I was 6-8, I wouldn't want my friends mum putting my PJ's on for me or supervising me getting changed.

As for my treasured toy. No way would I leave the house without it.

It's alearning curve for them, either you take care of your stuff or you lose it.

Have sleep overs at your house in future so you can run them with military precision.

Hulababy · 02/10/2011 21:57

I admit that I do find it odd that she didn't get changed into her Pjs. I always go in and say goodnight etc - oh and a few times to say be quiet Wink - so would have noticed a child in their clothes and questioned it. Could she not have asked for her case?

PaintedToenails · 02/10/2011 21:58

Bonsoir......six and seven year olds are MOISTURISING now? Christ on a bike.......Shock

youarekidding · 02/10/2011 22:02

YABU because everyone's right they 'should' be able to at that age.

My DS, just turned 7yo, would not be able to though! He is extremely disorganised and I'd be lucky if he remembered to get dressed, get his clothes on correctly and take his PJ's off first. Brushing his teeth! - he'd have lost his toothbrush before he left the house Grin

So I sympathise. And losing a million a few treasyered items has not improved him.

youarekidding · 02/10/2011 22:02

treasyered Hmm treasured!!

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AnnieLobeseder · 02/10/2011 22:42

A1980, for the record, I just went up and checked they all had their pjs on and asked them to clean their teeth when the sleepover was at my house, I didn't actually dress any of them!!!

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blueshoes · 02/10/2011 22:57

I'd have done the same as you, Annie.

At my dd's 8th sleepover party, the girls (mostly 7) were all capable of putting their pjs on and brushing their teeth, some more than others. They just needed me to calm them down and lead them to it. Same about packing up their things in the morning. They just needed reminding. I put all unfamiliar toys and clothes in a pile for them to reclaim.

No one forgot anything, save one girl who decided to put her used underwear and tights in my laundry basket which I subsequently discovered! Smile

2rebecca · 02/10/2011 23:08

I agree its the kids' jobs to get themselves ready for bed and pack their stuff up. If you thought she may forget then when you picked her up you could have asked her if she had everything, I still remind my teenage son if I pick him up after sleepovers, my daughter is much more reliable abut he will leave stuff if not prompted. No-way should this be the family hosting him's job. They had him for the night. I think if your daughter is going to get distraught at leaving fluffy toys at folks' houses and you will blame other people for her forgetting them then she isn't old enough for sleepovers yet.

heleninahandcart · 02/10/2011 23:35

Your DH forgot to check she had everything with her and you call the other parents notoriously scatty?

snailoon · 02/10/2011 23:47

A favourite stuffed animal was left at our large, messy, rambling, old house after a sleepover. I spent HOURS looking for it (distraught child) and finally located it shut in a drawer of an decrepit Welsh dresser we use for storing old photos and my Grannie's (never used) silver.
I wish kids wouldn't bring so much stuff on sleepovers, or at least that they would take a pile of our extra clothes, stuffed toys, and repulsive sweets away with them when they go home, if they are planning on leaving all their rubbish at our house.

carabos · 03/10/2011 08:37

So much in this post OP it has all the makings of a classic. There's competitive parenting, slightly incompetent DH, PFB DD, moisturising 6 yr olds, oral and personal hygiene and the loss of a familiar.
Chill. There's a long road ahead.

seeker · 03/10/2011 08:54

I have been horrified by bonsoir's 6 year old's cleansing and moisturising routine before, but I decided to ignore it this time because I suspect that "she only does it to annoy because she knows it teases"

CaurnieBred · 03/10/2011 09:36

DD (6) moisturises twice a day because she has eczema and has to put Double Base on her dry patches so she would be sent to a sleepover with her travel tube of cream too. It might be something along those lines.

seeker · 03/10/2011 10:01

If it was, caurnie, I wouldn't of course, comment. It's part of a beauty routine!

Bonsoir · 03/10/2011 10:04

It is part of a skincare routine.

2rebecca · 03/10/2011 10:35

I can understand children of both sexes with eczema moisturising regularly, but otherwise think its sad if primary school aged kids are being encouraged to do stuff to their faces by their mums. Washing your face just like the rest of your body should be fine at that age.

Bonsoir · 03/10/2011 10:57

Facial skin is not body skin: facial skin is finer than body skin and is constantly exposed to the elements. Products designed for use on body skin are not appropriate for use on facial skin.

upahill · 03/10/2011 13:14

My boys moisturise as part of their routine.
Have done for years.

It's part of their personal grooming, after they have showered and cleaned their teeth they put on their de ordourant and moistuise their face and then dry their hair (or in DS1's case gel, wax and pratt about for 20 mins)
No big deal , it's only same as what me and their dad do.

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