to 'only' give my Mum flowers for her birthday.

[Helo]

My mum's birthday is on Friday, we live 2 hours away and I can't get to visit my parents for the next few weeks, so I can't take her out for a meal.

She has everything she wants and more disposable income than me so buying for her is tricky. I asked my Dad and he had no ideas for himself, let alone me!

So I have ordered her a bouquet to be delivered on her birthday, I chose a flower she loves and colours that match the decoration in the living room, and the woman said it would be a decent size. It is from the florist that did my wedding so I know the flowers will be lovely.

But it seems so weird sending her something that is not very long lasting and seems strangely impersonal. Normally I would buy her a small bunch and give her a present but like I say I am out of ideas this year!

So AIBU to just send a bouquet?

Not at all

It's the thought that counts, I'm sure she'll be thrilled

YANBU

flowers aren't impersonal, particularly if you have picked a flower you know she loves.

No, I like flowers! I woud be over joyed with flowers!

But! If you looked a little deeper into the internet you might have found a magazine subscription she liked; maybe arranged for a more longstanding plant to be delivered; go to Amazon and send her a book ..... only you know what your mum likes .....

She has 3 magazine subscriptions already (one from me (that I renew on Mother's Day, one from my Dad and one she organised herself!), she only reads really trashy books she tends to buy at Tesco or get from the library, she doesn't enjoy cooking so no recipe books etc. So hard!

I think flowers are a lovely gift. It does depend on the person though, is your mum the 'happy you remembered' type or the 'takes offence at anything' type?

I think flowers are lovely.

Flowers are like chocs as a gift, most people think they're just a waste and would rather get something that lasts longer, but they're both things that are brilliant to get.

Thorntons mmmmm

I would love to receive a bouquet as a gift. I wouldn't think "where's the rest of my present?"!

For the first time ever this year I didn't get my mother anything. Despite intense questioning she categorically stated there was nothing she wanted and if you value your life you don't just 'surprise' my mother, she gives presents back! She's not big on flowers.

So, aside from a promise to get her something as soon as she thought of it, she got nothing. Felt very odd.

YANBU. Flowers and chocolates and my favourite perfumes are the only presents that I don't have to pretend to like.