To think dh should not drink and look after dd

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First time posting. Am furious with dh. Our 8 month old dd is not a great sleeper. She is still breastfeeding in the night at 11pm, 2.30am and 4.30am and then awake at 6am. She is over 20 pounds so really doesn?t need the milk.
Dh was meant to help me wean her off these night feeds, starting this weekend so he could catch up on lost sleep. Our friend Jim was round last night and the two of them were playing computer games.
I want to bed at 9pm and dh very kindly let me sleep by looking after dd. She woke at 4.30am really wanting a feed and I got up to see to her expecting dh to be very tired. Went downstairs and found dh and Jim still awake at 4.30am and dh was quite drunk. He said she woke at 1.30am, had some water and did not want to go back to sleep so he brought her downstairs with him and Jim.
Am so angry, his intensions were quite sweet, letting me catch up on much needed sleep but him and his friend got through 4 bottles of wine. While he was not staggering around it was obvious he had been drinking. He is still in bed as did not turn in until 5.30am, what on should I say to him when he wakes.
Most of the time he is a great dh and dad.

I'd be worried that if he thinks it's ok to do this then he may be 'helpful' another time and drop the baby or something.........that would be disastrous and I may be wrong, but I tihnk if that did happen and baby was seriously harmed or even dies he would be helpd accountable !!

Two bottles of wine is about 5 or 6 large glasses - yes it's a large amount of units and not terribly advisable but it's easily done over a long period of time of an evening. I bet most people (who drink) at long, late dinner parties consume this amount without totting it up. I know I have when we've had people round. I would be nowhere near drop down drunk. I might breathe some revolting fumes over my dc every now and then but that's about the worst of it!
As for the baby, it really doesn't matter as a one off!
BUT saying all that, I can understand you feeling a bit pissed off. I'd just let it go though, we're all allowed to let off steam surely?

Someone who is slurring their words is way too drunk to be in charge of a baby.

The OP was not there in any meaningful sense - she was asleep in another room and had no idea the baby was up.

If he had put the baby back to bed and kept drinking that would have been OK as there was a sober adult in the house who could have been woken if needed.

But to keep getting drunk while the baby was in his care was very irresponsible.

Also I don't believe anyone is just fine after consuming 2 bottles of wine. Just because you don't realise your judgment is impaired doesn't mean you are fine.

YANBU I think two bottles of wine is a lot! I could understand maybe a bottle would be ok, though not ideal. I would be very annoyed!