To think my friend should have known which of 3 men were her dd's father?

[Proudnscary]

She lives abroad, dd getting married. My friend has never known which of three men are dd's father (it's a very long story!) but dd wants to know who her dad is - understandably. I genuinely don't know which one it is but they are actually all nice guys who we've known for years.
Anyway her dd has confided in me that she wants to invite these guys out for the wedding!!
Firstly is this a mad idea, what does she hope to gain, and secondly shouldn't my friend have actually known which one is the dad and be able to tell her?? I feel angry with my friend and a bit angry with her dd taking a chance on me to confide in. AIBU/WWYD??

I am so disappointed .

Original FAB, do you feel cheated by me since you don't know when?

Maybe your friend doesn't want to talk about the things she's gone through..

But at the end of the day she should take a chance because after all, the winner takes it all...

Not a sign of a carefully lived life, is it.

But the daughter could have a DNA test these days, if the prospective dads would cooperate.

Mamma Mia, here we go again!

Mamma mia

More like a bonking queen..........

....and clearly not a tambourine's beat she was swinging to :o

She's only after the Money Money Money to pay for the wedding!

Crabsticks do not actually contain any crab.

does your mother know that you're posting on Mumsnet?

Has she considered Jeremy Kyle for a DNA test? That would slove the whole thing. Plus Mum could use money from the follow up take a break mag articles to do up her house, I heard its got some dangerous cracks in it.