To be annoyed at mobile hairdresser [prepares to go to grip shop]

[fit2drop]

She is a very good hairdresser(she does exactly what I want and knows my hair)
However today I had organised for her to be here for 11am, it normally takes 1 & 1/2 to 2 hrs so I would be free by 1pm ish.

Great , that meant I could go to work and catch up after almost three months off due to major surgery. I am returning next Tuesday and was going to use this afternoon to play catch-up (obviously it will take longer but it would be a start and a chance to speak to manager re any important changes I needed to be aware of. I work in MH so situations and peoples conditions, treatment etc can change.

So I ring work and arrange a meeting with Manager who thinks this would be a good idea and actually cancels her arrangements to accommodate me .

Hairdresser did not turn up so at 11.30 I rang her, no answer, so I left a voice mail to contact me asap.

NOTHING, So at 12. I decide I will get ready and go to work as arranged for 1.30pm

1:00PM she turns up... I am then thinking shit!! I will now have to cancel manager, which will look bad , after all she cancelled other arrangements to make room for me. So I didnt really want to do that.

I told Hairdresser I would have to rearrange as I had a meeting at 1.30. But I needed an appointment before next Tuesday as that was when I was returning to work and I would still need the full colour and cut as it hadn't been done since before my surgery.Yep it was THAT bad

She said she could not fit me in as she does not work weekends and was fully booked on Monday.

So I cancelled with my manager who was politely OK about it (but I got the sense she wasn't really iykwim) I felt really shit at messing her around.
She is too busy on Monday and obviously does not want to cancel anything after to-days fiasco.

Trust me though my hair seriously needed doing , it wasn't something I could put off till after returning to work.

Hairdresser has not really given a reason other than running late and mobile reception was crap where she was
She is a lovely girl and I do not want to fall out with her, certainly not over this but I feel really cross now that she has gone and its too late to do anything about it and to be fair you don't need to fall out with someone who is just about to do your hair , do ya

I just think because it was her tardiness that caused this it wouldn't have hurt her to offer a late hair cut (ie after her last client) or even to come at the weekend. But then I understand that she needs her time off too..

arghhhhh why am I so pissed off with her. Would you be?
How would you have handled it? Taking on board she is good, reasonable priced and I have an almost pathological fear of hairdressers but have built up a trust relationship with this girl over the last 3 years

My hair looks bloody great though

slavetoafilofax I guess with that nick, I should have expected a comment like that from you.

I accept I made a bad vanity judgement.

MurunBuchstansangur not customers but service users and their families(I work in MH) and also have meetings with consultants, care coordinators, MH nurses, Psychiatrists , Employability specialists, etc, so I do need to present myself appropriately as I represent the area of MH I work in.

Thank you, all of you for honest responses.

milknosugar I accept that , but at least I didn't keep my manager waiting 2 hrs, I did ring.

but yep , I agree.

[hangs head]

I can't believe in today's job market/financial climate anyone would cancel work for a hairdresser. Your manager might be alright about it now, but if redundancies come up do you not think you might have planted a tiny seed of doubt about your commitment?

Mainly - have you not heard of erotic capital, or whatever it is called? Maybe having good hair is all part of that.

Yanbu to be annoyed, how could she possibly have been 2 hours late for no real reason? Yabu for letting her do your hair then and letting your manager down. I'm sure she wasn't impressed, getting your hair done is hardly an emergency. As for your hairdresser, if there really was a genuine reason why she was so late, she should have been very apologetic and trying to make it up in some way. If she was working in a salon, she would not be happy if you turned up two hours late, would she? I remember once I had a hair appointment and was running a bit late, through no fault of my own, and my hairdresser rang to see where I was, quite understandably. I would have told her that it was too late and I had to go into work. Perhaps if you had told her you would have to get your hair done somewhere else, she might have been able to fit you in at the end of the day or at the weekend.

MainlyMaynie
I did NOT cancel work, read the thread!
I cancelled a meeting I arranged whilst I was off sick prior to my return to work after a long absence due to major surgery.
I thought it was a good idea to catch up before I legitimately returned,
So did my manager, so she cancelled her appointment to make room for me.

Now I feel bad that she did that and I KNOW I let her down. I have apologised to her, she is fine.
No way does it reflect on my ability to do my job which I am extremely good at nor does it reflect my commitment to the job . Proven by the fact I am returning to work 6 weeks prior to reccommended time after the particular sort of surgery I have had.
I think that and the fact that I had accumulated 2 full weeks of lieu time in the 4 weeks prior to me being off (which I will not be taking) to make sure everything was up to date and manageable during my abscence.

So although I aknowledge I was a prat to arrange a meeting and then change it because my hairdresser let me down I will not let anyone question my commitment to my work.
So trot on, theres a love

You mean she said she is fine. That doesn't necessary mean that she is.

I certainly wouldn't be unless I was a manager who didn't mind being messed round because I had nothing else to do with my working day.

upahill
Do you know my manager?
was you there when she said it?

NO, thought not.

I was

and I can assure you my manager is not the sort of person to say one thing when she means something else. so YES!! it does mean she is fine, thank you
The reason she is a good manager is because she says what she thinks .
The reason she has the respect of all her staff is because she understands that sometimes things happen, however I can assure you that If I had been due to work today (as in , not on the sick still) then she would not have been fine , But IF I had been on pay on a normal working day I would not and never would not turn in for work due to a hairdressing appointment running late.

IMO I think you should say sorry to your manager.

Indaba

If you want to comment with a comment that makes sense or is valid, try reading the thread love.

Whats done, is done :)

Well done for going back before you had to.

I hope everything gets sorted with your hair, and that everything goes well with your manager.

Sounds like she 'got it' anyway

Well I still think it is rubbish letting someone down like that especially if she is so good and understanding.

I can kind of see where the OP is coming from. If you're going to work in your own time then you do have a bit more say about how it all works.

I would have told the hairdresser that your hair appointment was at 11am and you have to be at work now. I would not have contacted my manager for something small as having my hair done, but would have arranged another hair appointment at a different time.

I understand that you have to present yourself appropriately, but could you not have tied your hair back, or styled it so it looks presentable until you get a hair appointment.

StealthPolarBear Thank you
GalaxyWeaver I can only say I cannot will not discuss that on here as I can imagine the responses I would get from the hang-em-while-we-knit brigade and I'm not sure I have the energy to fight my corner on that one , plus people knowing the details of my condition is not pertinant to the thread , sorry.
pigletmania after weeks and weeks off work and prior to that weeks of not having my hair tended to , it really did need some urgent attention. I am old and need to cover the abundance ofgrey.

I think its important that when I return to work I look well and not like the tired old crone I had become prior to my surgery.
My manager needs to see that I look well enough to return and although its just hair, I think to feel good we need to feel confident in our appearance and when my hair is done I fee 100% better.

upahill You are right, it is rubbish letting someone down like that and if you read the thread properly you would see that I have actually said that about myself all the way through the thread.

I know what I did was rude and thoughtless to others time, however
this thread was about how angry I felt with my hairdresser and myself for being so vain as to NOT tell her how upset I was at her tardiness .

I do understand the point of the thread fit2drop and get you are upset at being let down by the hairdresser but I don't think two wrongs make a right.

I also understand how your hair can have a profound effect on how you are feeling. I am the same and if my hair isn't clean or I have left it too long and my roots are showing I feel very self concious.
I know you have been off for a while and want to feel and look your best. Have you thought of a make up revamp. If you haven't had that done for a while you can feel amazing!

Hope you are feeling better. Is there a chance that your work can do a phased return so that you don't do too much too soon?

upahill
I will be having a self pampering night on Monday evening, I have some lovely lush products and a face pack and nails will be done , plus hopefully a bit of a massage by DH if everything goes to plan
I am ready to go back , I am going stir crazy and even resorted to watching Jeremy Kyle THAT was the moment I KNEW I had to do something
I should not really go back for another 4/6 weeks but the GP has said if I go back early I will go back on ammended duties. My manager is happy to do this
I can make sure I am more office based initially and will arrange interviews and meeting to be held in my office when able as opposed to me doing the travelling.
I am unable to return to driving yet so any off site visits will have to be covered by colleagues or arranged as I said above, to come to me.

If you are well enough to watch Jeremy Kyle you are well enough to go to work!!

Hope it goes well!

eggggzackerly my argument

Thank you